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Liahona
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Hi, most of you know that difficult child 1 is having problems. He has been put on a very high level of supervision at home. He has to be in my sight at all times because he has tried to hurt easy child 1.
For me this is like having a bouncing ball chained to me. It is very hard to function.
How can I ever trust him enough to not have this level of supervision? Before the incident, at least in front of me, there weren't signs that he was getting to the level of aggression where he would pick up a piano bench and try to hit his sister with it. I can not let that aggression happen again. I also can not realistically keep up this level of supervision for the next 7 years. And, I don't see how I can know that he won't hurt the other kids again. If he is hurting them while I think he is being good then just his good behavior will not tell me that he is safe.
His behavior is good enough in front of others that I don't think an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would keep him. I can't send him anywhere else to live. X would take me to court and get custody of him. Then X would kill him.
How have you guys handled this?
Right now I'm so glad he is going to school every day.
For me this is like having a bouncing ball chained to me. It is very hard to function.
How can I ever trust him enough to not have this level of supervision? Before the incident, at least in front of me, there weren't signs that he was getting to the level of aggression where he would pick up a piano bench and try to hit his sister with it. I can not let that aggression happen again. I also can not realistically keep up this level of supervision for the next 7 years. And, I don't see how I can know that he won't hurt the other kids again. If he is hurting them while I think he is being good then just his good behavior will not tell me that he is safe.
His behavior is good enough in front of others that I don't think an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would keep him. I can't send him anywhere else to live. X would take me to court and get custody of him. Then X would kill him.
How have you guys handled this?
Right now I'm so glad he is going to school every day.