busywend
Well-Known Member
I am glad you will confront the therapist about this one. It is silly to think anyone is just going to up and buy a horse - even if they COULD afford one! Sorry, but just because a kid wants it, does not mean they get it.
As Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) as your feelings.....been there done that! It is so hard to live with the emotional abuse from our own children. BUT - what I learned is you can not take it personally. I know. As hard as it is, you have to realize that it is not personal. For a typical teen it is the typical 'I hate you' now and then. But, for a difficult child it can truly be parental abuse. This is where detachment comes in. You have to remove your feelings from the situation - sometimes for many, many months. I had to or I was afraid I would not even want to speak to her when she became an adult.
As Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) as your feelings.....been there done that! It is so hard to live with the emotional abuse from our own children. BUT - what I learned is you can not take it personally. I know. As hard as it is, you have to realize that it is not personal. For a typical teen it is the typical 'I hate you' now and then. But, for a difficult child it can truly be parental abuse. This is where detachment comes in. You have to remove your feelings from the situation - sometimes for many, many months. I had to or I was afraid I would not even want to speak to her when she became an adult.