My son is 22, about to turn 23 in one week. He's had similar problems as most of everyone on here, starting at around 13 years old. He has 2 felonies for selling pot when he was 18 and the only reason he has the felonies is because he dropped out of probation, sold his car and hiked the applachain trail. The trail was an accomplishment, but under bad circumstances ( quitting probation). He returned home and did community service and we paid a big fine for his quitting probation. Even while he was on probation he got a misdemeanor for pot possession at 3 am with a girl in some far away town. He returned from his hike, got a job in a restaurant and lived at home fairly peacefully. That lasted about 3 months. The job didn't promote him fast enough so he abruptly quit and got a job in a bar for a few weeks (from what I can gather- now after the fact). He moved in with his girlfriend (her apartment) and we didn't see him all of the time, so, things seemed ok, but that was because we weren't seeing him on a daily basis. Then in June, he wanted to go to California to hike with some trail buddies and asked for a plane ticket there and back as an early b day gift. He said his job had no problem with him taking a week off. So we got him the ticket. The day he arrived home, he told us he was going to break up with his girlfriend. (To backtrack) his plans were to go to barber school in August and live away from home (because it's too far to commute) which dad and I were going to pay for. We were to pay for the school, the apartment and he was to get a job on the weekends. I implored him to not immediately go back to his apartment and dump his girlfriend, but he did it anyway. He said she wanted him out immediately and he needed to come home. We said ok.we stipulated that he was to continue working, help around the house and no girls over here.that lasted for about 3 weeks. Today is the day we were going to move him to his apartment and sign the lease and he would have started school on August 10. The past two weeks have been miserable. He stopped working out, which seemed to help him with mental distress and being distracted. My daughter went to his "job" and they didn't even know who he was. But he has money. He started bringing many unknown (to us) girls here and having sex with them while we weren't home. He had loud, disgusting sex while my 21 year old daughter was here with him and another time while her friend was here waiting for my daughter. He stole my daughters Xanax which she keeps strict control of and takes as directed if not less. He friends younger brother told my daughter that my son sold him Xanax and that he used to think he was cool until they were at some girls apartment and my son had loud, embarrassing sex with a girl while there. He makes no attempt to hide it. My husband was out of this was out of the f town on business and my son brought a girl over, I said you can sit on the deck, but she can't come in. No girls in the house at 11 at night! He did it anyway and had sex with her. He was on some kind of drug because I could tell, I directly asked him- "you don't look right, are you on drugs" - he said, I'm just excited to go to school.I told him she had to go and I was very unhappy about the disrespect, so he took off with her and we did not hear from him until yesterday after I told him he needed to come home to have a pow wow and he hasn't made any effort to gather his things for the move. Last night he showed up at 8 pm obviously on something and we started to try to talk to him to see what is going on. He denied everything- the stealing pills, the overt, irresponsible sex etc. He actually admitted to the sex stuff because he wanted to know who told us (he didn't even consider one of the times it was when I was here). I told him your sister expressed concern because she witnessed it and her friend did too. His immediate response was - she's a fvcking snitch! My husband told him that he was not to approach her about this, but he told him fvck that- I'm going to right now. Thankfully she wasn't home. He was told this wasn't about revenge, this is about him getting some help, it doesn't matter who said what, it's that his actions are unhealthy and he was in no uncertain terms to get in his sisters face. He stormed off and called her and left a message saying that she a snitch and that she is now because she up! He returned home 20 mins. Later and wanted yes or no am I going to school. We said that we can't have him 2 hours away selling pills and bringing home multiple girls and being completely irresponsible. Told him he needs to get a diagnosis and some treatment and that doing the school thing was contingent on going to treatment alongside school. He balked at that. Said we are the sick ones, that it's completely normal to have multiple sex,partners in a weeks time and that he was taking Xanax for fun. A big blow out before embarking on school! He refused to admit he was selling drugs, but I know that's a lie. He tried to say my daughters friend liked listening to him have sex and told him so. He related this to us in a month st filthy,crude way. He said the apartment that we got for him was a dump (it isn't) anyway so what does it matter how many chicks he brings home. I said bottom line - you need help. You have to get help. He mocked my husband when he was talking and said is it yes or no? Am I going tomorrow or not? I said please give dad and I a minute to talk and he zoomed off, leaving his wallet, cigarettes and backpack behind. I didn't notice it was here until this morning. We were supposed to leave here at 9 am this morning and at 10 he texted my husband- am I going or not? Husband said- you need to come here so we can talk. His response was I will be there sometime today. The fact that he would sell drugs after having 2 felonies tells me that he doesn't have any fear of jail and the inappropriate sex and no shame or remorse makes me think he's a sociopath.