I have two boys, a 5 (almost 6) year old, who is my difficult child, and a 9 year old, who is my easy child. The younger one just started kindergarten and it has been really rough on all of us. We haven't had any formal testing done, so no diagnosis or idea what might be going, but we are in the process. My easy child has had a great year so far. Straight A's, no behavior problems, nothing. He has had problems in the past, but mostly because he is a friendly kid and an avid talker . No where near the problems we are having with my younger son. But this year has just been outstanding for him... ...until this morning. He brought a hotwheel into school (without asking me if he could). I don't know if it was in the cafeteria, the hallway, or the gym where they wait before class, but at some point a teacher or monitor told him to put it up, and he refused, so he got it taken up. And then he started crying and telling the teacher or whoever that he just wanted to beat them up. :-O This does not sound at all like him, and he went to the counselor (who I talked to later), to settle down, and told her he knows what he did was wrong and he was sorry, that he just had a hard time controlling his anger. I'm not worried about him, and I think I know what is going on. I think it is in part due to the extra stress that has been in our house lately with the problems we have been having with his brother, and also in part that he sees the extra attention his brother is getting for his bad behavior, and he wants some of that too. Of course he will have some mild punishment tonight (probably no x-box or TV time), and we will have a major talking to, but I'm not concerned this kind of thing will be a real problem. I'm thinking though, that we need to do something for him, some special one on one time or something. I'm thinking maybe he can go see a movie with his Dad, or maybe I could take him for ice cream, or something like that. I think that maybe quality alone time with mom and dad in the case will be better than a tangible award... he already get's something for making an E in conduct and straight A's. Now I just need to figure out what Any ideas or suggestions on how to keep this from happening again? I don't want him to feel left out, but at this point his brother really does require a lot of praise and attention and what not.