Our 19.5 year old son, still living with us..for now...is our only one...is completing evening HS and just started a new job (fired from the last 3). A little history: Expelled from the last 9 schools, had an IEP, but was labeled as ED (Emotionally Disturbed) which got him ultimately sent to a Residential Treatment Center when all other options failed. Pulled him out of there...as he was basically drugged up. Been on every medication you can name throughout his life. Clean from those drugs the last 4-5 years. Also, had been hospitalized 11 times throughout his life due to psychological episodes mostly occurring while in those "special - level 5" schools he had to attend due to mainstream schools not equipped to handle his issues. Was definitely diagnosed with ADHD...but has a "soup sandwich" of other things to include anxiety, poorly developed ability to socially integrate (likely a spectrum issues/Asberger) which led to lots of rejection and resulting poorly developed self identity, no real self-respect, insecurity, and huge anger issues. Hangs with a very unsavory group of peers and is in love with pot. Its been hell over that last 5-7 years. Arrested for possession last year, thousands of dollars of damage to my house due to being high and setting fires in my garage and sundry other things he would do as a result of poor decision making, impulse issues and being high. Wont go into detail on that. Good news is that he's close to making it through High School which a few years ago I would have said was never going to happen. We have a family psychiatric that we all see, he attends mandatory drug counseling, and local NA mtgs etc. But, I suspect that none of the help he's receiving is making a lot of progress with him whether that is due to the fact that he really doesn't understand his issues, or any desire to help himself get better. Will just have to have faith that maybe some of the help is getting through. Maturity is seeming to have some positive impact, but there are pervasive tell-tale issues of what I see as some very concerning underlying issues that we are dealing with. Personal hygiene is abysmal, doesn't take showers, has very very angry violent sounding self dialogues in his bedroom or bathroom or where he happens to be in the house where doesn't think anyone is listening in. Hasn't really acted on any of the things, and perhaps its his way of venting (almost like an autistic child does when they rock)...self soothing I think. But, it is a very violent sounding dialogue. He cycles from what seems to be almost a euphoric almost silly behavior to a very dark thuggish mode. Thought about potential for bi-polar..not sure...but something is going on. Have recently shared this with the psychiatric. He's not a dumb kid...just makes very dumb decisions and that coupled with poor decision making skills and rather immature attention seeking behaviors, he's way behind his peers. Either way, he has to go...and that is the plan for now...thinking military if he can even get in...or just move out. Thought I'd throw this thread together just to see who else out there can relate to any of this.