As you know....my oldest son, aged almost 8yr....was diagnosed, so far with anxiety, traids of ODD and possible asperger. I have started to notice that often during the times when his verbal abuse worsens....it's not really abuse, it's more as if he can't stop saying bad things, for example...while he is busy on the computer, watching tv or what ever....he will say 'freacken, stupid, sucker....." the whole time. He will also be rude and irritated towards me or his brother. Anyway, what I noticed was that during this time or just after...he will complain of a terrible headache? Does anyone have any thoughts on this, where it fits in or does your kids do this sometimes? The other thing is: After my visit to my parents reasantly, my dad shook his head and remarked that he can't understand how this lovely boy that used to be chirpy, singing and playing 1-2 years ago suddenly became so quiet and withdrawn. He saw him 3-4 months ago. He is confinced that something bad must have happened to trigger this...obviously this worstens my quilt feelings, because I must have done something wrong to cause my sons condition! Was there a time when your kids just became worse...there was always something 'bothering' me about my boy....took him to therapists sinse aged 4yr, who couldn't find anything wrong, but his withdrawn, quietness only became worse during the last few months...this is why we took him to a psychiatrist, who made the diagnosis.