difficult child has in school suspension. He has always had out of school suspension before. Apparently there was an incident in pusic (pe and music combined). The kids were standing in line, and difficult child went to get in line and the kid in front of him accused him of cutting him. difficult child said he didn't cut him and then got in line. One of the other boys friends came up and cut in front of difficult child, and difficult child told the kid he would not let him cut him, and the kid who cutted then pushed difficult child. difficult child said you can't cut me because you pushed me. At that point things get muddled, as they do when you have a bunch of 4th graders telling you what happened, but what is clear is that difficult child ended up pinned to the wall and was being choked so he clocked one of the kids in the face and there was blood involved. Usually I would be against him hitting, but if the teacher's cannot defend you sometimes you have to defend yourself. One of the other boys, I am unsure which one, is being suspended for 15 days, and I am unsure what is happening to the other one. Poor difficult child was scared to death when it happened, and when I was talking to him he wanted to know how long he was grounded for. I told he has to finish his current grounding(different punishment) but that he was not grounded for this incident because he had no choice. He started crying, saying I couldn't go get help I could'nt go anywhere. I am feeling kinda funny about telling him it was ok to hit the kid. I hope it does not come back to bite me and he uses my words against me at a time when it is not appropiate, but this should not be appropiate ever but it does happen. I just did not know what else to tell him. If someone was choking me I would pop them too if there was no help available.. I am not going to tell him to just get choked.