Yet another sister in law vent. I finally had to draw a line in the sand during last night's text convo. Every time we talk about difficult child, I end up feeling worse. I'm quite certain that difficult child has been feeding her BS (difficult child spent the night there over the weekend), and sister in law fails to remember how difficult child manipulates and outright LIES to make her seem like the victim. sister in law says that my relationship with difficult child is really unhealthy (duh!) and that I can't see "how badly I treat" difficult child... um, WHAT? She then asked me if I thought I was a "loving and fair" stepmom to difficult child, and I let her have it. I feel like I'm MORE than accomodating to difficult child, to the point that I have no expectations from her anymore other than expecting disrespect and attitude - I don't even really make her do chores anymore because I don't feel like dealing with the rudeness. And it's pretty hard to feel LOVING toward someone that you have to protect yourself and your children from, someone who tries to find ways to subtly (and not-so-subtly) hurt you, someone who treats your other children like dirt and who is mouthy, disrespectful, and thinks household rules are for "losers." I'm SO TIRED of being told that I treat difficult child badly. I know I'm not perfect and have my own issues, but I'm not a monster! I'm a DAMN good mom, but I'm also aware that difficult child doesn't respond to conventional parenting, and I act accordingly, at this point doing what I need to do to protect myself and my other children. I don't put up with disrespectful, rude, mean BS. This is seen as treating her badly. Then sister in law says that I don't get what she's really saying, that she's on my side and wants to help, blah blah blah... So we both agreed that we shouldn't discuss the topic anymore. And now I'm beyond sad, drifting into depression because this is now a huge rift in what had been a very close, wonderful relationship. In all other areas and in all other topics, she has been wonderful, friendship-wise. But I'm afraid this is something that is going to stand in the way.