My difficult child 2 stayed after school today to hang out with a friend and watch the kickball tournament. He called me at 4:30 and wanted me to come get him. Something about his voice made me ask if something was wrong. He said yes but he didn't want to talk about it. I insisted and he said that another kid had choked him and he'd passed out. I asked who was there with him and made him let me talk to the Special Education teacher that was there. She confirmed his story and said the principal was with the other boy. What happened was that several kids started playing cards together. They all knew each other a little. One kid has a speech impediment. A couple of the other kids teased him - imitated him I guess. Then my kid followed suit and said the same thing. For whatever reason that was it. The kid who was being teased got up came around the table and grabbed difficult child 2 from behind and put him in a choke hold until my kid passed out. All the kids present agreed that the other kid didn't stop until mine had passed out. I went to the school as fast as I could get there. When I got there the Special Education teacher and principal were both talking to difficult child 2. The Special Education teacher kind of freaked me out cause she was telling my son that he should avoid this other kid. She told him he shouldn't go to the bathroom during passing period that it was the most dangerous place to go. I'm like - Okay this is not what I want to be hearing. And she would not stop. I finally interrupted her and said excuse me I need to talk to my son. I asked how he was and I could see that one side of his neck was swelling up. The principal said that she wanted to give me more information about what had happened and I told her I knew that mistakes had been made by every one but that violence was never an acceptable response. She said absolutely in a very affirming way. She said that there would be consequences for the other kid but we would not know about it. I interrupted her to say that I had talked to my son's doctor's office on the way there and they said I needed to take him to ER if he had neck pain or other signs he'd been injured. So I needed to take him there now. She said she'd talk to me tomorrow and we left. My son is fine. His neck is sore and he's mad but otherwise he's fine. He wants us to call the cops and press assault charges. He said this kid has done "it" before to other kids. I asked what he meant and he said he saw him choke another kid but not all the way to passing out. I am on the fence about this I guess mainly because it makes my life more complicated when I am up to my neck in work and draws more attention to my son and our family. It means more contact with the cops, having to explain it to his probation officer and everyone else, maybe have to take time for court etc. On the other hand it is really not OK for a kid to walk around that campus who thinks it's OK to choke people when he's mad. Especially if he thinks that no one is going to call the cops on him. Apparently the school did NOT call the cops which kind of makes me think this was not as big a deal as it seems. So - your thoughts?? Should we or shouldn't we call the cops?