As I said in the morning thread difficult child spent 4 days with a buddy and his family. Not only did I get a lovely comment about difficult child from the mother, it seems difficult child grew up a bit. This young man is a very anxious young man and difficult child befriended him when he first went to school. He is a little less independent than difficult child but really high anxiety. Today when difficult child was taking out the trash, I thanked him for doing it with out a hassle. It's really a help. He said "I had a glimpse of what my life would be if I don't make a choice to grow up". I didn't really know what he meant. He said if he didn't grow up he would live a life like his buddy. "What would that be, difficult child?" I ask. He said, " buddy is immature, impulsive and obnoxious. He doesn't take any advice and he can't live on his own. It's the way I would be if I don't grow up" He quickly added "I will always be a kid at heart." Heck, I'll take it. I was pretty blown away by his reflective thought process. Could it be that another light bulb turned on? Did we go one step further on difficult child's life journey? I try not to blow simple situations out of proportion. He hasn't really done anything different but like all of us warrior mom's, my heart leaped in hope that things will change and improve for him. Somedays he surprises me.