An Ant update

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by antsmom, Aug 6, 2007.

  1. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    we never heard from any police. my older son who is a cop looked into the computer and said there are no charges there for ant. so...who knows if the arresting cop is out of town or what? I do not think this will go away.

    meanwhile he is very anxious and fearful. he was drinking beer nightly but the other night asked to go see the doctor and get some prescription for anxiety. I had suggested this for him before and he wouldnt go. he is ready. we have an appointment tomorrow midday to see the doctor.

    he still is going to work and paid this month's rent. yesterday he made himself a meatloaf and he has been staying alone and not bringing women around. it is a waiting time.
  2. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader


    It sounds like he's been scared so badly, he's actually thinking healthier. Good for him to ask for help and stand independently. And good for you for not freaking out. Hugs & prayers being sent your way.
  3. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    A blessing in disguise that it is taking so long for the system to catch up with him. He was ready to do something rash if he were to get picked up a few weeks ago, am I right? Now it almost seems like he is planning for it.

    I am very glad you got to get away for awhile too. You certainly deserved it.
  4. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    thanks, I did stop at Giant Eagle and asked if they have any anti-anxiety medications on their $4.00 prescription list. ant has no health ins. the pharmacist said to ask the doctor for buspar. so I will see if he agrees and will RX that for ant.

    ant was suicidal but no longer. he seems resigned to accept whatever comes his way.

    the trip was a wonderful respite. took me two days to turn to rubber and relax.
  5. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member

    Janet, I am sure you reminded Ant that he has had many of these scares and can not afford to need a scare to get on the right path. He does seem to think more appropriately when he is in trouble. He has 'too little, too late' syndrome. But, he can recognize that pattern and change it. Perhaps a weekly reminder letter in the mail to stay on the right path is all it would take. Maybe a saying framed on the wall of the bathroom that he is forced to read daily while sitting on the throne. Not making a joke, just trying to think of the best way to get the reminder without getting into trouble.
  6. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Hoping he can remain alcohol free until they catch up to him, would be good if he would be clean until that time....medications would be good to calm him.....hope they help.....
  7. Shari

    Shari IsItFridayYet?

    Sending many big hugs. How frustrating.
  8. MrsMcNear46

    MrsMcNear46 New Member


    Still praying and hoping it all works out.


  9. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    As always sending supportive thoughts your way. DDD
  10. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Just curious and not looking for him to get out of this, but don't they have to charge him within a certain time? I thought like 30 days they had to notify him of something....right to a speedy trial and all that....I know it hasn't been that long, but just wondered....
  11. saving grace

    saving grace New Member

    Janet thanks for the update, glad to hear you had a nice time away. Also glad to hear that Ant is calming down a bit with the drinking and women. My difficult child is also taking Buspar, just started it so I dont know how its working for him yet but I had been on it for quite a while in the past and it works fine. Its not very strong or addictive. It sort of just takes the edge off but he has to take it everyday for the full effect. Good Luck tomorrow

  12. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    [email protected] right to a speedy trial...
    ...he hasn't even had a speedy arrest!

    This is so silly!
  13. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Sending warm and supportive hugs. I'm glad he's asked to go to the doctor.

  14. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    Yeah, apparently nothing is "speedy" in PA, except when running from the cops.....
  15. gottaloveem

    gottaloveem Active Member

    Hi Janet,
    how are you holding up?

    Can't figure out what is going on with the legal system. I think I would need anti anxiety medication. if I were Ant. It's got to be very stressful waiting for the cops to come and get him.

    If it's not in the computer, is there a chance it was dropped and forgot about???
  16. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    I cant figure it out. ant had me over for dinner tonight and we talked a long time. I hope the medications help and that the doctor will RX something. I dont know if they have to do it in a certain amount of time. I dont want to
  17. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    Sending hugs and prayers. I am glad you got away and relaxed with boyfriend.


  18. PonyGirl

    PonyGirl Warrior Parent

    My guess is the report is sitting in a file in a drawer somewhere, waiting for a signature or a date or something insignificant.

    When my difficult child got arrested for selling pot at his school, it took another 8 months for charges to be filed. He was arrested in March, and we didn't have a Merry Christmas that year. His court date was set for the following February. I remember clearly, it was on my mom's birthday.

    The hits just keep on coming.

    Sorry for the waiting game. Would be nice if ant could use the time to make his past mean something different. My difficult child never could do this, always figured he was screwed anyway, so why even bother.

  19. Hugs and prayers, lady. I'm thinking of you.
  20. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    so ant went to the doctor he had since he was a teen. the doctor talked to us for a long time. he knows all about the real ant. he put ant on klonipin and trazadone. he said those are cheap medications and the jails RX both so it would be good to do those. ant had been on both of those while in jail. the trazadone is to sleep and the klonipin for anxiety. ant was relieved it seems to talk to the guy.

    to take both it cost just under $2.00 A DAY. It is up to him to take them properly.