I would like to apologize to the friends on this board. I have not been posting for quite awhile, though I have been reading along and thinking of many of you and your struggles. My difficult child came back into our lives on a regular basis several months ago, saying that he realized the road he was on was leading him nowhere and he wanted to return to college but did not think he could do it without some support. husband and I discussed what the worse sin would be, to be fooled once again or to not believe him this time if he was sincere. After much consideration, Difficult Child moved back home and we paid his 1st semester's tuition once again. Difficult Child knows if he doesn't pass his classes or keep his job he leaves immediately, and so far he has done those things, but there are of course good days and bad days and very bad days. Giving him a chance seemed like the right thing to do, regardless of what he decides to do with that chance. Somehow I am not as wrapped up in the outcome anymore. Hence the apology. I wince when I recall the certainty with which I told some of you what you *SHOULD* do with your DCs. If I were reading my own posts, I would most certainly have said it was wrong, dead wrong, to allow Difficult Child to move back home and cover college expenses when Difficult Child had burned us so many times before. And maybe I would have been right. Who knows? I have no way of knowing what each of you goes through, and I regret my surefooted, prideful stance when ultimately it is up to each of us to do what is right. And "right" changes on a dime, it seems. So I wanted to let you all know why I have not been posting. My so-called advice rings hollow when I realize that I don't even follow it myself, and sympathy and virtual hugs don't seem like much to offer. I don't know much about dealing with DCs and certainly know less by virtue of knowing each of you only by what I read here. But I am reading along and thinking of you often. My lack of activity on the board does not reflect the affection and empathy I feel for each of you.