...and to finish off the week a little good news

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by fuddleduddledee, Apr 18, 2008.

  1. fuddleduddledee

    fuddleduddledee New Member

    A while back it was decided by the School Board that my son was going to be moved to the senior Asperger's classroom at his school for next year. This decision by the School Board was a numbers issue, not in the best interest of the child. His teachers didn't want him to move, he didn't want to move, and, I didn't want him to move. He is very comfortable in his current classroom and I just knew if they moved him all heck would break out. His teacher's pleaded his case, his psychiatrist wrote a letter, I spoke to the School Board Rep and still they were going to move him. One morning in February out of desperation I sat down and wrote the following letter.

    Dear Mr. Principal:

    I am the mother of the above-named student, difficult child, who is attending your school and enrolled in the Asperger Program. He has been is this program and his current home room for the past two years now. It is my understanding that the School Board in its infinite wisdom has decided that difficult child should be moved to the senior Asperger’s class for the next school year.

    For the first time in his entire school life, difficult child has found a place where he feels at home, a place where he belongs, where he is able to succeed, where the staff understands him, where he is able to attend a complete school day. Never, before have I had the confidence to know that when he leaves in the morning on the school bus, that he will be gone from home for the whole day. Never, before have I had the ability to stay at my job all day knowing that I will not receive a telephone call at some point in the day to come and get him. This is the first school year in the past twelve years where I do not cringe and feel my stomach turn when the call display reads HIGH SCHOOL XXX-XXX-XXX. Oh, the embarrassment I have felt and the tears that have rolled down my cheeks over the years!!! There was a time when it felt like I could just put the keys in the ignition and my vehicle knew its own way to the school. Even as I type this letter the painful memories of those prior school years brings tears to my eyes.

    difficult child is a complex child, as he was once described to me by a psychologist. He has the following current psychiatric diagnosis’s bipolar disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, ADHD, and Asperger Syndrome and he is highly medicated. Any one of these disorders in and of themselves would be crippling to most people and yet, despite these difficulties this child is now finally succeeding in school. I give much credit to the staff in room 219 for difficult child’s current school success. Despite his age, I would place difficult child’s maturity level around the 10 or 12 year old level. I have grave concerns at this point in moving him into the senior class as I do not feel he will continue to succeed. I discussed this with his psychiatrist and she also is supportive of him remaining in his current environment. I had previously forwarded a letter to the school written by Dr. Prescription Writer from XXXXXX Hospital indicating her position in this matter.

    Please understand Mr. Principal, I am not asking that difficult child remain in his current placement forever, just requesting a reprieve for possibly a year. I know that the School Board is looking at numbers and dollars but knowing my son, I am concerned that he will backstep yet again instead of continuing to succeed.

    I appreciate your taking the time to read this long-winded letter.

    Thank you,

    :woohoo:***I WON, I FOUND OUT TODAY I WON, I WON, I WON*** He will continue to remain in his current classroom at least for the next school year and, it was my letter that was the deciding factor. :jumphappy: I still can't believe it was my letter that did it.
  2. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    Way to go :warrior: !!!

    Doing the happy dance with you!!! :cutie_pie:

  3. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    Wonderful news! Great letter, and way to go in advocating for your difficult child! :D
  4. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Way to go, warrior mom!!!
  5. 4sumrzn

    4sumrzn New Member

    That's wonderful! You should be so proud of yourself & the great letter you wrote!
  6. slsh

    slsh member since 1999

    I'm sorry, but this is not "good news". This is.... amazing, fantabulous, WONDERFUL news!!!! :yourock:

    You wrote a terrific letter and really, the SD would have been way out of line to move him for their own convenience. I think you got that across in your letter in probably the nicest way I've ever seen! Great job!

    I may need to call on you for help with letters in the future - you definitely are a gifted advocate for your kiddo!

  7. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    That was a really good, effective letter.

    But it wasn't just your heart-felt plea that did the trick - what tipped the scales most likely, was the fact that you DID put it in writing so clearly, and this would have been produced in evidence if/when the District's decision to move him happened, and failed as you predicted. In the event of the prediction of failure you could have handed a copy of ALL correspondence, including your letter, to any advocates with access to the media. The District would then have been well and truly exposed as totally ignoring factors other than costs and numbers. It would have been very bad PR to take such a risk, especially since the school were clearly supporting your decision.

    We sometimes forget how powerless school staff can be in such a situation. They can complain, they can object most strenuously, but when the District eventually says, "Jump," the school staff MUST eventually respond, "How high?" or risk other somewhat petty reprisals at a later stage. Maybe not all districts are like this, but it has been my observation that the District officials who are most successful in balancing numbers and the budget are the ones with the best promotion chances higher up in the state education system. They rapidly get promoted from their original teacher status to become politicians. And remember the rule on how to know when a politician is lying - their lips are moving.

    Well done indeed, you have just ably demonstrated the power of a well-crafted parental letter.

  8. ML

    ML Guest