platinum358
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I recently met a man and began a relationship..he has a very angry 21 yr old son..very negative and angry about the littlest thing..after I had seen this man three times..the son gave me a very negative rundown of his father..designed to chase me off..too bad for him I didn't buy into what he was saying..
In the meantime I have seen this young man steal money from his father on several occasions..neglect his care..create endless stress by being angry and screaming..
very suddenly..this young man was arrested because of his drunken girlfriend..someone called the police and he was arrested for domestic violence..his father and I went to pick him up the following day..and get the car out of impound..after 4 hours of dialysis for the father...it was an exhausting day for him..this young man was belligerent..
when we arrived hom..we talked..and the young man was told things would be changing..he was going to find work..he was going to take some classes..st some goals..etc..the conversation ended on a ostive note..everything was peaceful
In about an hour..the girlfriends mother was in the apartment..screaming..and rescuing the 21 yr old from the terrible abusive father..they literally stripped the room and left..this young man was at that time the home health care provider for his father..he just abandoned him entirely..several days later he returned with two friends for a few more things..and declared he loved us both..and that he should be forgiven..
My boyfriend is devastated..and I am not sure how to help him..he has been violated..there has been no sign of repentance on the part of this young man..I am doing everything I can to keep him away from the apartment..and minimize any exposure to his father for now..
so the young man is living with the girlfriend and her family..still not working..he calls occasionally saying he misses his Dad..my fear is he will try to return..in the meantime I have moved in and plan to ake over the home health care..and the relationship is going well except for this sadness..
My boyfriend feels responsible for the sons bad behavior..I can see for myself that he was taught good values by a moally sound father..who gave him plenty of love..he is just making bad choices..he seems happy when he is being miserable..and causes a lot of disruption any time he is present...
I think he needs time in the real world to find out about life..learn a few hard lessons and come to his senses...I am horrified that he would treat his Dad so badly..side from the dialysis three times a week..this man lost his foot in an accident and is blind in one eye..I consider this elder abuse..shame on him...
How do I convince my boyfriend to keep him at a distance for awhile? or what should I do?
my concern is for his health now..he is already feeling better...
In the meantime I have seen this young man steal money from his father on several occasions..neglect his care..create endless stress by being angry and screaming..
very suddenly..this young man was arrested because of his drunken girlfriend..someone called the police and he was arrested for domestic violence..his father and I went to pick him up the following day..and get the car out of impound..after 4 hours of dialysis for the father...it was an exhausting day for him..this young man was belligerent..
when we arrived hom..we talked..and the young man was told things would be changing..he was going to find work..he was going to take some classes..st some goals..etc..the conversation ended on a ostive note..everything was peaceful
In about an hour..the girlfriends mother was in the apartment..screaming..and rescuing the 21 yr old from the terrible abusive father..they literally stripped the room and left..this young man was at that time the home health care provider for his father..he just abandoned him entirely..several days later he returned with two friends for a few more things..and declared he loved us both..and that he should be forgiven..
My boyfriend is devastated..and I am not sure how to help him..he has been violated..there has been no sign of repentance on the part of this young man..I am doing everything I can to keep him away from the apartment..and minimize any exposure to his father for now..
so the young man is living with the girlfriend and her family..still not working..he calls occasionally saying he misses his Dad..my fear is he will try to return..in the meantime I have moved in and plan to ake over the home health care..and the relationship is going well except for this sadness..
My boyfriend feels responsible for the sons bad behavior..I can see for myself that he was taught good values by a moally sound father..who gave him plenty of love..he is just making bad choices..he seems happy when he is being miserable..and causes a lot of disruption any time he is present...
I think he needs time in the real world to find out about life..learn a few hard lessons and come to his senses...I am horrified that he would treat his Dad so badly..side from the dialysis three times a week..this man lost his foot in an accident and is blind in one eye..I consider this elder abuse..shame on him...
How do I convince my boyfriend to keep him at a distance for awhile? or what should I do?
my concern is for his health now..he is already feeling better...