Shari
IsItFridayYet?
I am sorry for not being around as much as I should. As in the past, school is a chaotic disaster.
Yesterday, I planted my hiney in the room with difficult child and we had a great day. Left at 2. Meeting last night went well...til today.
Good thing today...the doctor that did the second opinion said difficult child is likely severely dyslexic in addition to mood disorders. But thinks his primary issue at school is the learning disability. He has had language evaluations before that show nothing, yet everyone that works with him has noticed oddities in his language. New SpEd teacher did some prelim testing today and sais she agrees with that diagnosis, except despite having extensive training, she's never worked with anyone that is as severely dyslexic as she thinks he is. She has no idea where to begin.
They brought in one para for the am. She's good. A mom of a 19 yuear old difficult child, knows the ropes, been a para for several years. Spent the first day following me and asking questions...seems to get it.
Left the meeting last night with a plan...We were going to try afternoons, I was going to come in and work with him to transition him into it and make sure it would work, etc. Increasing SpEd hours, time in classroom was to be spent keeping him approriate in the classroom, and A number 1 priority is avoid the frustration that causes the behaviors.
As in the past, it was blown by 1pm today. They brought in FOUR afternoon paras and told me to go home. I said no, i told difficult child I was going to be with him, i was staying. The third para was one that he was with a lot last year...the better of the 2 he had last year, but he stil had a lot of issues with her. She'd been with him an hour when math started. Gave him 3 problems, he got stuck on the third. I gave him manipulatives and she told me the "he can do this, and if I am going to be his para, you need to leave." I left the room and FOUR MINUTES LATER, she came out dragging him, kicking and screaming. Took him to SpEd room, called new SpEd teacher, she went in, they spent 20 minutes, kicking and screaming at both of them. Then they told me to take him home. In the meantime, 2 people went by dragging a FIVE YEAR OLD who was yelling "NO!" and shut him in the closet. Screaming.
I took wee difficult child to a friend's house and asked them to watch him and went straight to sped director. That was NOT the plan, and I will NOT tolerate that this year. If the best they can provide is people who are going to push him to a meltdown, then he won't be there. It is there job to figure it out, I can do it, so I know it can be done, SpEd teacher had no trouble with him, etc...but I WILL NOT TOLERATE THAT AGAIN THIS YEAR.
PERIOD.
She called a meeting with Sped teacher and paras. I have not heard back yet.
The bad part is, everytime difficult child has been asked what he's excited about or nervous about this new school year, he's excited about being a good second grader. Nervous about being a bad one. Its on his mind non-stop.
As we left today, he was screaming "I don't want to be a bad boy".
I'm almost ill.
SO anyway, I apologize for my absence...and appreciate the good thoughts. Will update as I can.
Yesterday, I planted my hiney in the room with difficult child and we had a great day. Left at 2. Meeting last night went well...til today.
Good thing today...the doctor that did the second opinion said difficult child is likely severely dyslexic in addition to mood disorders. But thinks his primary issue at school is the learning disability. He has had language evaluations before that show nothing, yet everyone that works with him has noticed oddities in his language. New SpEd teacher did some prelim testing today and sais she agrees with that diagnosis, except despite having extensive training, she's never worked with anyone that is as severely dyslexic as she thinks he is. She has no idea where to begin.
They brought in one para for the am. She's good. A mom of a 19 yuear old difficult child, knows the ropes, been a para for several years. Spent the first day following me and asking questions...seems to get it.
Left the meeting last night with a plan...We were going to try afternoons, I was going to come in and work with him to transition him into it and make sure it would work, etc. Increasing SpEd hours, time in classroom was to be spent keeping him approriate in the classroom, and A number 1 priority is avoid the frustration that causes the behaviors.
As in the past, it was blown by 1pm today. They brought in FOUR afternoon paras and told me to go home. I said no, i told difficult child I was going to be with him, i was staying. The third para was one that he was with a lot last year...the better of the 2 he had last year, but he stil had a lot of issues with her. She'd been with him an hour when math started. Gave him 3 problems, he got stuck on the third. I gave him manipulatives and she told me the "he can do this, and if I am going to be his para, you need to leave." I left the room and FOUR MINUTES LATER, she came out dragging him, kicking and screaming. Took him to SpEd room, called new SpEd teacher, she went in, they spent 20 minutes, kicking and screaming at both of them. Then they told me to take him home. In the meantime, 2 people went by dragging a FIVE YEAR OLD who was yelling "NO!" and shut him in the closet. Screaming.
I took wee difficult child to a friend's house and asked them to watch him and went straight to sped director. That was NOT the plan, and I will NOT tolerate that this year. If the best they can provide is people who are going to push him to a meltdown, then he won't be there. It is there job to figure it out, I can do it, so I know it can be done, SpEd teacher had no trouble with him, etc...but I WILL NOT TOLERATE THAT AGAIN THIS YEAR.
PERIOD.
She called a meeting with Sped teacher and paras. I have not heard back yet.
The bad part is, everytime difficult child has been asked what he's excited about or nervous about this new school year, he's excited about being a good second grader. Nervous about being a bad one. Its on his mind non-stop.
As we left today, he was screaming "I don't want to be a bad boy".
I'm almost ill.
SO anyway, I apologize for my absence...and appreciate the good thoughts. Will update as I can.
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