Along with other stressors that I wonh't get into yet, I went to difficult child's first IEP at this mainstream high school today. This is in the same school district as he was in before but he's never been in mainstream high school before. First, we had this meeting within 2 days of his 30 day requirement from enrollment. Now they told me they would invite 2 people from the Department of Juvenile Justice school because these people had offered and I requested it. Not only did they not send a notice of the meeting to anyone, they provided it to me at the meeting today with a date of 9 days ago on it, and it doesn't even list these other two people from the other school. Then, she took it upon herself to eliminate all but 2 of the accommodations that had been listed in the IEP difficult child came in with, saying they were "middle school-ish". She says difficult child is to tell her what he wants as a transition plan and I have nothing to do with that at all. (I realize he gets a lot of input in this but I should be there to make sure he's not coerced and have some input, too, correct??) The only thing she wanted listed as a goal was self-monitoring behavior and she wanted difficult child to carry a checklist to every class and mark off daily whether or not he went to class on time, finished his homework, stayed on task, etc. I told her there was no way that was going to fly. Then she told me we were within 2 days of the deadline so I needed to sign it. I told her I'd be happy to sign an extension. She told me she didn't have an extension form printed out. I told her we needed to make some changes, she typed like she was typing them in the computer. She told me to take the first IEP form hoome and sign it and return it by Friday, THEN she would print me a copy with today's changes and difficult child's transition goals added. She didn't even print out what she changed today for me. Now, what gets me about this is that ALL school's difficult child has been in have gone through this exact same scenario almost like it's a written transcript thinking I'm going to sign whatever IEP they already have ready to hand to me. Also, she had the package from the Department of Juvenile Justice school district and hadn't even read their recommendations until I pushed that point and she read them at todays's meeting and said some were therapist issues and they were a mainstream high school, not a therapist. So I asked if difficult child had been sent out of class for behavior problems since being there or if ANY teacher had a complaint about his behavior in class and she said no. And his grades are good and he came in there with good grades. Do all school district's try this with parents or is it just a standard method in this school district? Oh- and the general ed teacher- she wasn't even one of difficult child's teachers so she was permitted to leave after 5 mins.