I am a single mother of four kids aged 10, 6, 3, and 3. My ex (their father) left us one night two years ago. He said he was going to do laundry and has never looked back. No child support, no visitation, he lives in a completely different state. Though I have called and begged him (literally) to help me he refuses and him and his new girlfriend just sit back and laugh at my situation. Now on to the situation: My ten year old tries, I think, to be good. At least sometimes. He has been diagnosed with ODD, depression, and anxiety. He will hit his siblings and scream. He has thrown things at me and them. He has said he was going to kill us all. He's going to kill himself. He's just very angry at the world and most of this started after his father left. He has always had a bad temper (yelling and screaming), it just escalated. Perhaps the worst issue of his that I am dealing with is that he poops his pants. All the time. I've taken him to doctors, there is nothing physically wrong. The psychiatrist said it ties into the ODD. I found a pair of his pants with MAGGOTS in them because he had just tossed them in the dirty clothes instead of cleaning them out like he is supposed to. He doesn't listen very well, when asked to do something it's a huge fight that turns into no one cares about him and he hates everyone. My 6 year old is developmentally disabled. She eats everything in the house. I also thinks she has been paying too much attention to her brother and will throw things and punch walls when she is angry. She listens even less than the ten year old. Unlike her brother, the six year old WILL hit me and do it repeatedly. NOTHING WORKS. I have tried spanking, time out, positive behavior reinforcement, taking everything away. Nothing is working and on top of everything else going on I just, I'm at the end of my rope here. I'm about to lose my house because my kids chased off my boyfriend of a year with their issues. I'm about to lose the job I just got because of their issues. I can't cope anymore. And on top of everything else, one of the 3 year olds is autistic. I have NO SUPPORT. None. No one wants to deal with my kids. No one wants to take them for a couple of hours. I am stuck and have no idea where I am going.