HeadlightsMom
Well-Known Member
So, AWOL (since last May) difficult child showed up on my Facebook page about 20-min ago. Claims he's forgotten our phone # (which we've had for 3 yrs). Probably not, but years of meth make that possible....or just working an angle. Who knows. Says he's been clean for 1 week and wants rehab. Can he please see us tonight.
My response --- Why? What has changed? We have tried repeatedly to get you into rehab and you either refuse (despite that it's court-ordered currently) or leave right after entering (as he did last April). Last time WE did all calling & paperwork for YOU. This time, that will not happen. YOU will do all of YOUR calling & paperwork for YOU. We love you, but, at this stage, we only believe provable results.
His response --- Ok. I love you guys. Can I see you tonight?
Hmmmm.... I called my husband and we chatted. Just thinking about it makes both of our hearts pound. You all know what I mean. Hubster and I agreed to this....
--- 30-min max visit in public place (only if peaceful)
--- No surprise questions or manipulations....or we get up and leave (we're good at this, actually)
--- No coming home with us or money from us
--- We will feed you at a restaurant tonight
--- We will give you rehab contact phone # (it's our insurance), but we will NOT call for you.
Any other ideas or suggestions? I'm open to ideas! This will probably happen in 4 hrs or so from now...IF he shows up.
PS -- I did NOT give him our home phone #. I'm skeptical he doesn't remember it. Facebook messages work fine for contact and a reasonable barrier when needed.
My response --- Why? What has changed? We have tried repeatedly to get you into rehab and you either refuse (despite that it's court-ordered currently) or leave right after entering (as he did last April). Last time WE did all calling & paperwork for YOU. This time, that will not happen. YOU will do all of YOUR calling & paperwork for YOU. We love you, but, at this stage, we only believe provable results.
His response --- Ok. I love you guys. Can I see you tonight?
Hmmmm.... I called my husband and we chatted. Just thinking about it makes both of our hearts pound. You all know what I mean. Hubster and I agreed to this....
--- 30-min max visit in public place (only if peaceful)
--- No surprise questions or manipulations....or we get up and leave (we're good at this, actually)
--- No coming home with us or money from us
--- We will feed you at a restaurant tonight
--- We will give you rehab contact phone # (it's our insurance), but we will NOT call for you.
Any other ideas or suggestions? I'm open to ideas! This will probably happen in 4 hrs or so from now...IF he shows up.
PS -- I did NOT give him our home phone #. I'm skeptical he doesn't remember it. Facebook messages work fine for contact and a reasonable barrier when needed.