This is my first post, so please excuse any awkwardness. A Quick Intro: ------------ My smart, creative, wonderful son whom I adore is 12 year old. Since he was around 5, my wife and I knew the level of frustration and anger he exhibited was beyond what we had seen in our daughter and any other child we had come into contact with. In short, although a windy path, we did eventually get a ADHD diagnosis when he was about 7. In the last 5 years we have had lots of adjustments in terms of medications to manage his anxiety/frustration and anger as well as expanding the methods of discipline in order to train him up to become a young man. These have been challenging times! To him, the world is black and white and God help us when any family member stands on the opposite side of the table discussing something he disagrees with. I did read The Explosive Child which opened my eyes to who he is and how he thinks...but the techniques tried never had any expected results. I know there will be another diagnosis (ODD, mood...) for him as we continue to pursue answers. In the back of my mind, I hoped that as he got more mature his reasoning skills would kick in and he would 'automagically' learn to listen to (and trust) that what we say would start making sense to him. And with this skill, he would be able to see that the world wasn't flat and that what I was lovingly teaching him were the keys for his future. Truth is, his hormones are working overtime and his anger is more intense then before...how wrong my assumptions where is so obvious to me now! My son is a gifted kid...he has a gentle, happy loving side and 50% of the time is riding high. His brain lives to learn anything technical and he drives his hunger for more knowledge constantly. He thinks (and maybe is right) that he is smarter then everyone else. However, this mental perspective and his black and white thinking result in explosive disagreements with us, his grandparents and uncles and family friends. Yesterday is went to the next level when he had it out with his school principal. These outbursts may be less then when he was younger, but the types of people (authority figures) he allows himself challenge is expanding which has really alarmed me. I know there are kids like my son that have to be handled in a uniquely different way, however they get older our ability to shelter them becomes weaker and weaker. What to do? Group therapy? Family Counseling....I am exhausted from all of this but I know the real work is ahead. Thanks for hearing me vent. I really appreciate the stories I have already read here and feel a sense of community in the secret battles most of us are going through. In that vein, any advise would be greatly appreciated.