Hi All, Don't know if many of you remember me but I got on this morning, after a very long absence and read some of the threads and wanted to say Hi and update on what's been going on. I am working a lot, good for me... and husband is doing well. difficult child is in Arizona, living with his bio-mom. Things are not going well and of course husband and I "are to blame for his current state of affairs". She is feeding him all kinds of lies, and he is believing them but husband and I are holding on to the hope that as he gets older he will see the truth. After all, he did live with us for 18 years...right???? He told me I was like a "little animal crawling up his leg". We found out that difficult child was molested by his brothers best friend when he was 8. We filed a police report but because he is an adult that is all we could do. difficult child does not want to pursue it any further. It explains a lot of what we went through with him and we had no idea.. not even any suspicion.. So my friends, husband and I are still trying to adjust to life without all the drama, except when we get a call or an email from difficult children big brother alerting us to the newest problem and seeking our help. Seems difficult child has alienated everyone and his bio-mom is feeding him alcohol so we are waiting for the big explosion and praying that jail is not the final destination for him. Peace of mind is very infrequent, only when I'm working and husband is fed up to the max and almost entirely refuses to discuss difficult child. We started out with the best hopes and intentions. Do you ever wonder how things could have gone so wrong? I have battled the "What did I do wrong's" frequently. Knowing in my heart I did the best I could. Well, as usual I am off to work but I did want to check in and say hi and let you all know what has been happening at the Coookie house. I honestly think I am getting to old for this crap. Hugs to you all..