Wow, Ladies-thank you so much for thinking of me and sending so much support! I can't begin to express how much I appreciate it and how grateful I am to have you all as cyber-friends. I joined this board looking for solutions to help difficult child. As it turns out, I don't think I could have survived the last few years if I hadn't found this board.
I just got home from a long day at work (not a bad day, just long) and have found an email from my mother wanting to know difficult child's "issues" and what kind of trouble he's been getting into over the past couple of years and sayinig she needs to know these things so she can figure out "appropriate things" to write him about and that she doesn't know what to write him about if she doesn't know these things. Well, personally, I think she doesn't know what to write him about because she hasn't even seen him in 3 years- she won't come up here to visit him. Secondly, she wouldn't know appropriate boundaries if they slapped her in the face and continuously snides them when I set them. Thirdly, giving my mother personal information is like handing an enemy a machine gun- not just for me but her antics sure never helped difficult child either. Sooo....
I'll be finishing a beer (or two) reading a letter my mother sent to me to forward to difficult child, posting about the latest and greatest difficult child news in General, and emailing my mother back tonight. I've had a good night's sleep and a day at work to re-group and put things in better perspective, at least for myself. I can't help difficult child, I don't think. I'll fill you in, in a little while, in Geneeral.
In the meantime- thank you all again so much!
And, Starbie, HUGS right back at you!!
ETA: PS If anyone wants to throw out an idea or two of what I should say in my response to my mother's email, feel free. I can't seem to think of a nice way to say "BS, I've asked you to stay out of it, you say you will and have told me you would since you admitted that your antics caused my half-bro to file for custody, yet every time it's time to respect that appropriate boundary, you start prying me and writing inuendos to difficult child that it's my fault but if you get the info you want, then you have a panic attack over it that you can't seem to handle until you've stirred up so much koi in my and difficult child's lives that we want even less to do with you."
