It has been suggested that I apply for targeted case management and medicaid for wee difficult child. I didn't think we'd qualify, but we actually may come close. However, if I apply for them to get additional help with difficult child, they will go after DEX for back support and I either have to agree or not apply. Unless I can show good cause for them to leave him out of it. He is unstable as all get out, and even his own mother (entire family) think its a very bad idea to stir this pot. He lives 2 miles away and hasn't seen difficult child 1 in years. But he has a new girlfriend that wants to mommy difficult child 2, and make her part of "their family", and help DEX "become a father" (yet he has expressed no interest in doing any of these things) - so if he has to pay, everyone thinkgs he'll demand his visits. The last time he had difficult child was mothers day 2003. He had him for 4 or 5 hours. I have often thought I need to change the decree to sole custody and modify visitation to what is happening now (ie nothing) so that he can't pull this. I figured it would actually be more of an issue down the road, perhaps when difficult child had to go inpatient (I fully expect it will happen) at some point. I haven't had time to really make it a priority. Would that help show good cause? Is there any benefit or drawback to doing either? I am thinking I can probably tell him that I will get them to back off child support if he'll not make an issue of changing the decree. But I'll have to make sure they leave the support alone.