Shari
IsItFridayYet?
It has been suggested that I apply for targeted case management and medicaid for wee difficult child. I didn't think we'd qualify, but we actually may come close.
However, if I apply for them to get additional help with difficult child, they will go after DEX for back support and I either have to agree or not apply. Unless I can show good cause for them to leave him out of it.
He is unstable as all get out, and even his own mother (entire family) think its a very bad idea to stir this pot. He lives 2 miles away and hasn't seen difficult child 1 in years. But he has a new girlfriend that wants to mommy difficult child 2, and make her part of "their family", and help DEX "become a father" (yet he has expressed no interest in doing any of these things) - so if he has to pay, everyone thinkgs he'll demand his visits. The last time he had difficult child was mothers day 2003. He had him for 4 or 5 hours.
I have often thought I need to change the decree to sole custody and modify visitation to what is happening now (ie nothing) so that he can't pull this. I figured it would actually be more of an issue down the road, perhaps when difficult child had to go inpatient (I fully expect it will happen) at some point. I haven't had time to really make it a priority. Would that help show good cause?
Is there any benefit or drawback to doing either?
I am thinking I can probably tell him that I will get them to back off child support if he'll not make an issue of changing the decree. But I'll have to make sure they leave the support alone.
However, if I apply for them to get additional help with difficult child, they will go after DEX for back support and I either have to agree or not apply. Unless I can show good cause for them to leave him out of it.
He is unstable as all get out, and even his own mother (entire family) think its a very bad idea to stir this pot. He lives 2 miles away and hasn't seen difficult child 1 in years. But he has a new girlfriend that wants to mommy difficult child 2, and make her part of "their family", and help DEX "become a father" (yet he has expressed no interest in doing any of these things) - so if he has to pay, everyone thinkgs he'll demand his visits. The last time he had difficult child was mothers day 2003. He had him for 4 or 5 hours.
I have often thought I need to change the decree to sole custody and modify visitation to what is happening now (ie nothing) so that he can't pull this. I figured it would actually be more of an issue down the road, perhaps when difficult child had to go inpatient (I fully expect it will happen) at some point. I haven't had time to really make it a priority. Would that help show good cause?
Is there any benefit or drawback to doing either?
I am thinking I can probably tell him that I will get them to back off child support if he'll not make an issue of changing the decree. But I'll have to make sure they leave the support alone.
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