I just recently joined this site. I've never really belonged to anything like this before, but hoped it would help me and my family. This is my first post. We have been dealing with issues with our difficult child for years now. I sometimes think it was from day 1. She started cutting in 8th grade and the school called me to tell me that they had discovered this about her and a few other friends. We sought out therapy. One therapist tried to see her arm and she flat out refused to show her the cuts. We finally found a young therapist for her to talk to, but she mostly just lied to the woman and then came home and lied to us about what the therapist said. We stopped therapy after a short time. Now the cutting has gotten worse. After a recent discussion, I realized that the cutting was more than it seemed. It is an addiction. I want to find therapy, but I'm not sure what to look for this time. I need to take her to see someone who can see through her lies and manipulation and get to the root of the problem. My family is often in turmoil because of the fights my husband and I have with our child. She wants things her way and will go to extremes to make sure that she gets them. She does not like being denied. I feel like I've failed as a Mom sometimes both for this child's behavior and for the fact that I believe my other two children have been deprived attention that they deserved. If anyone has any advice on tips for finding a therapist or what kind of therapy I should seek, I would really appreciate it. She is trying to stop cutting and gave me her collection of razor blades, but I can tell from her deteriorating behavior that she is having a hard time quitting. Thanks for letting me vent.