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It seems that lately difficult child 1's goal in life is to prove me wrong any and every chance he gets. If I use the wrong word then correct myself, he harps on my mistake and reminds me that I'm wrong. If I accidentally call him by his brother's name and correct myself in the same breath, he has a fit because "I'm Not difficult child 2!!" Then there are other situations such as tonight, I told him to pick up his garbage from the den floor. It was a natural assumption because 98% of the time he seems to "forget" where the garbage is. Tonight, it happened to be difficult child 2's garbage which is a very rare occasion. difficult child 1's response as difficult child 2 was picking it up (without being told to) was "HA! You were wrong! You ALWAYS assume it's mine when it's not." I reminded him that MOST of the time it is his garbage so I assumed based on prior experience. He went on and on about how I ALWAYS assume it's him when it's not. I reminded him that I don't ALWAYS assume anything. He continues with things like I ALWAYS make him pick up things that aren't his and I ALWAYS make him do all the work and I never make difficult child 2 do any and yada yada yada. When he does 1 out of 6 lessons for school and it's 2:00 and I tell him he hasn't done anything, he focuses on the word anything. If I correct myself and say he hasn't gotten much of anything done he says "HA!!! See you were wrong again. I did do some work and you said I haven't done ANY."
How do you deal with this kind of low self-esteem? I make a point of praising him to high heaven when he does anything well (which is more often lately) but it just doesn't seem to be enough. I know part of it is his literal thinking and my using the wrong words but I am so tired of having every single mistake become such a huge issue. Please tell me this is typical teen stuff that will go away at some point (I don't even care if it's years I just want some hope here)?\
Thanks for letting me vent.
How do you deal with this kind of low self-esteem? I make a point of praising him to high heaven when he does anything well (which is more often lately) but it just doesn't seem to be enough. I know part of it is his literal thinking and my using the wrong words but I am so tired of having every single mistake become such a huge issue. Please tell me this is typical teen stuff that will go away at some point (I don't even care if it's years I just want some hope here)?\
Thanks for letting me vent.