just don't mix. No matter what we try to do to make them better they are not good and we've tried a lot over the years. When possible we do try to drive at night so he will sleep most of it. No such luck today as we had to be home earlier due to work tomorrow. It actually started before the car ride. This morning he kept coming in to the room we were sleeping in at sister in law's and bothering us. The first time was around 3:30 and then he did go back to sleep for awhile. Then he started at 5:00 coming in the room and asking to watch tv quietly. To protect the sanity of sister in law and her family we said yes (they live in a small trailer home and can hear everything plus they were all sleeping in the living room so we could have the bed). Next thing you know he is bouncing on the bed landing on husband and me, making noises and being a general pest. We finally got up at 7:30 to go to mother in law's house for breakfast. Then we get in the car to drive home. The first 2 1/2 hours I drove and he and husband slept. Of course, when it was time for husband to drive difficult child was wide awake and in full difficult child mode. A lot we tried to ignore (him playing his cd player with headphone so loud and singing that we could barely think or here our own music). However then he started getting dangerous. He would throw little things into the front seat that he knows he isn't suppose to because it is dangerous when someone is driving. Then he took a belt and started hitting my seat and then me (lightly but it still hurt and he is 14 and knows better). I told him he was on Stop the World (automatic for any violence). Then he took an ice scraper and thinking he is funny put it on the back of husband's neck while he is driving-grrrrrrrrrrrr! Next he started taking things of mine that are in the backseat and trying to get into them. One thing he took was my ww stuff and I didn't want it spilled in the car so I tried to grab it at which point he hit me hard on the arm with his cd player. Then when I took that he started swearing at me, etc... Real fun ride-NOT! At home he continued to be wound up and wouldn't follow any directions and started swearing at me and calling me all kinds of pleasant names. He tried to hit me again when I needed to take something. I know I just should walk away but darn it I was mad too and tired of being called the names. Maybe I didn't handle it the best but sometimes in the thick of a situation it is hard to always just walk away and let the consequences come later. He hasn't had this bad of day in a long while (those are just the highlights) but I've had it!! I'm so stressed and wound up right now I can't stand it!