difficult child had her first session with her counselor yesterday. The counselor, L, is someone we requested as we used her for difficult child issues in the past and she seems to "get it" at least a little. At this point in time, I'm only looking for someone for difficult child to talk to and complain to. She tried to talk with difficult child about what difficult child feels are some of her hot topics and what to do about them. When they came out to the waiting room, they told me one thing they want difficult child and I to practice. When difficult child gets angry and starts swearing or being rude and direspectful, instead of me telling her the consequence, I'm to tell difficult child that how she is acting is not appropriate and what does she think will be the consequence for her behavior. Not that she gets to choose her own consequence because she knows that the consequence is always a loss of privileges..usually electronics. It supposed to help her stop and think so that eventually, she'll stop "before" she gets to the point of acting up. I really have my doubts that its going to help much but am willing to give it a try. I've already tried it last night and this morning and so far, its only served to make difficult child angrier and increased her swearing We have a couple of ladies coming in to the house a couple of times a week for the purpose of trying to give us new ideas and I just keep getting the feeling that at this point, everyone is stumped and are grasping at straws because no one has really been coming up with any new ideas:crazy1: Our last neurospych told us that difficult child was an "enigma"....and he's right but aren't they all? I mean, if we and our "professionals" had them figured out, we wouldn't be here right now would we?