So I met with a lady from our local Family Support Agency recently. She had received a letter from the Clinic where I bring difficult child and it stated that they believe difficult child to have "Reactive Attachment Disorder in the context of complex neuro-developmental delays". Only once before about three months ago one of the docs made a throw away comment that difficult child may have "some type of attachment disorder". This is the only time I have heard mention of it. It seems to me that this is what they believe but they are witholding this information from me. They are very much in the "prefering not to label" side of the fence. Because this doctor mentioned attachment disodered once before I have read up a bit on it. I know it is mostly found in kids who have been adopted. I am difficult child's biological mom. Is it rare for Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) to be found between biological mom and child? I worked full time up until a couple of years ago so for the first 9 years of her life difficult child was reared by me and her two grandmothers. I think they believe that this is a big part of the reason why difficult child has not attached to me properly. I also know that Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) can be caused by neglect and abuse. difficult child has certainly never been neglected and as far as i know there has been no abuse. difficult child never talks about feelings so if she had she probably wouldn't say. I have however brought her to differenty professionals over the years including play therapy and there has never been any evidence of abuse. I know plenty of other kids who have been looked after by grandparents and various other caregivers as their parents work and they have turned out fine? How is it that it could have had such a negative affect on my child? Also are the symptoms of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) the same as a kid on the spectrum? As it was only last week that difficult child's psychiatric was saying he "suspected Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD)" only to change his mind a week later!!! If difficult child does have Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is there ANYTHING i can do to make things better?? Any suggestions or help would be much appreciated??