So, difficult child FINALLY admitted she is depressed. Me, Biodad and stepmom all sat down Friday night and had a discussion about a card found in her room at dad's house. It was a 'Husband' birthday card. So, curious stepmom thought difficult child had taken one of her cards. But, no. It was for a boy that we have forbidden difficult child to communicate with as he is too old for her. He is 19. She is only 16. So, I mention to stepmom while we are discussing this over the phone that the boy was in PA at some group home and that is where she had sent letter to before we realized his age. She said this was sent to NY. Right in our town. I asked the address and it turned out to be the County JAIL! She then noticed the return address was neither of difficult children homes - but a friend of hers around the corner from me. So, the little sneak had played us and found a way to continue to contact him. We had a talk about that with difficult child (grounded) and the talk led to me expressing that I felt difficult child was depressed and had been for months. Well, biodad and stepmom agreed and told difficult child why they felt she was! It was perfect! They mentioned all the things I had seen and I think this opened difficult children eyes to the possibility (of course whenever I speak it is wrong ) So, took difficult child into the docs on Saturday. He asked a bunch of questions. She admits she is depressed. Says no pills or therapy. He is starting with a sleep study as her teachers have been saying she is awfully tired lately - I attributed that to being sick for 5 weeks. Who knows what a sleep study will do but it is working for difficult child. She LOVES attention getting things like this. So, she is willing to go! It is the first step. She admitted it. Oh and as usual, she is extremely happy after being punished. She lost her beloved cell phone for 2 weeks. Her computer is already broken. I guess she is forced to spend time with her family! The torture!