I grounded difficult child days ago. She hasn't kept to it yet. Today, after school, (I was sleeping from nightshift) she went out of the house behind my back, and sweet talked easy child into going with her to see her friend. It was dark. I had told them both after school when they woke me up NOT to step foot out of the house. When difficult child and easy child came walking back to the apt with their friend. I told difficult child: "see, you won't even look at me because you know you're wrong!" Her response was to look at me in very snotty way. Her friend even wouldn't look at me because I had already told the friend yesterday in a private talk that difficult child was grounded, and not to try to hang out with her until I told difficult child she could. I went to the friend's home to speak with her parents. OF COURSE, "no my mom's not here and my dad is sleeping" was the response. difficult child is really rebelling now. She's worse than usual with her insults. She uses her sister. One minute she is telling her, " I hate you, fat pig." and the next minute she is trying to coerce her into helping her see her friend behind my back. It was fortunate that when I grounded her, I left some room open for further tightening. Like she could watch tv but now she can't because of her incident. What I am afraid of is that she will be pushing the envelope in every respect now that she thought she got away with hanging out with her friend for awhile.