wakeupcall
Well-Known Member
Hi Patty
I'm a pro at ODD and homework. Our homework ordeals were exactly like yours. The teachers, aids, counselors, admin, etc, have absolutely no clue how horrible this situation makes home life. My difficult child canNOT do homework. By the time he gets home from school he is ALL done with school work for the day. We went through He// for years in elementary. FINALLY I called the lead psychologist with the school district. She said, "In his IEP he will NOT be given homework. Period. The child has to have somewhere to go that is not a battleground and that's home." It was immediately written into his IEP and he's not had homework since. I DO try to get him to practice his trumpet for band, or he won't stay caught up, and I insist that he read for twenty minutes every day. That's it. Life is not all about school. These children are people, very special people and not like every other child. So?? At home we have enough battles about normal living and when homework was added into it...well, it was like a war zone. He wasn't learning a thing anyway after all the bickering and fighting. PLUS it was making him hate his father and I. No thanks, we have enough problems. PLEASE, for your child's sake, ask for and IEP and get something done for her peace and your peace of mind. These children learn differently and they do NOT learn sometimes by the repetition of homework. They just can't focus for one more minute after that bell rings and it's unfair for any of us to force what they can't do.
This is very difficult. Everyone will think you're trying to get her off work. The answer is NO, you're trying to preserve your relationship. Your relationship is more important than homework!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bet her grades will improve if she knows that you will not be breathing down her neck to do homework if she will try really hard during the school day.
Good luck!!
I'm a pro at ODD and homework. Our homework ordeals were exactly like yours. The teachers, aids, counselors, admin, etc, have absolutely no clue how horrible this situation makes home life. My difficult child canNOT do homework. By the time he gets home from school he is ALL done with school work for the day. We went through He// for years in elementary. FINALLY I called the lead psychologist with the school district. She said, "In his IEP he will NOT be given homework. Period. The child has to have somewhere to go that is not a battleground and that's home." It was immediately written into his IEP and he's not had homework since. I DO try to get him to practice his trumpet for band, or he won't stay caught up, and I insist that he read for twenty minutes every day. That's it. Life is not all about school. These children are people, very special people and not like every other child. So?? At home we have enough battles about normal living and when homework was added into it...well, it was like a war zone. He wasn't learning a thing anyway after all the bickering and fighting. PLUS it was making him hate his father and I. No thanks, we have enough problems. PLEASE, for your child's sake, ask for and IEP and get something done for her peace and your peace of mind. These children learn differently and they do NOT learn sometimes by the repetition of homework. They just can't focus for one more minute after that bell rings and it's unfair for any of us to force what they can't do.
This is very difficult. Everyone will think you're trying to get her off work. The answer is NO, you're trying to preserve your relationship. Your relationship is more important than homework!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bet her grades will improve if she knows that you will not be breathing down her neck to do homework if she will try really hard during the school day.
Good luck!!