difficult child's 16th b-day is toady!

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by StressedM0mma, Feb 4, 2013.

  1. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    And while I am trying very hard to be happy and excited, it was a year ago on the 6th that we had to place her in the psychiatric hospital. That worry is in the back of my mind. Hopefully today goes well, and she goes to school.
  2. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Happy Birthday to your difficult child; I hope the year ahead holds much growth for her!
  3. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Thanks that is what we are hoping for as well. I would just like to be able to take a deep breath and relax. Not easy with a difficult child in the house. As O am sure all of you know.
  4. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Awwwwwww, please don't worry in advance. (I know it's hard). Hug her and give her a big "Happy Birthday" from her CD aunties (as Star says). Sixteen is such a big birthday :) Yay for her!
  5. HaoZi

    HaoZi CD Hall of Fame

    Happy Birthday to her, hope all goes well!
  6. Bunny

    Bunny Active Member

    Happy birthday to difficult child!! I hope her day is wonderful.
  7. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Well, she headed off to school on time. So that is a huge step. I am hoping she has a great day as well. Hopefully somene at school remembers that it is her b-day today.

    MWM, I would love to not worry in advance. It is my biggest issue. I am trying very hard to let go, and let things just happen. But, my pre worry is an issue. And, I am Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) about time. And difficult child is so much like her dad. Neither worry to much about time.
  8. SearchingForRainbows

    SearchingForRainbows Active Member

    Happy 16th Birthday to your difficult child!! Great news that she left for school on time! Keeping my fingers crossed she has a good day, her birthday is remembered...

    From personal experience, the teen years were the worst as far as raising my difficult children. Raging hormones add lots more fuel to the fire, and when combined with "typical teen" issues, are a recipe for an explosion just waiting to happen... Hang in there!!

    While it's hard not to let worry be all consuming, in the long run, it isn't going to help your difficult child and it can cause all sorts of health issues for you, both physical and mental. My best advice is to try to carve out a bit of time just for you every single day. Try not to think about your difficult child during your "me" time. I didn't follow this advice during the worst years raising my difficult children and I paid for it big time. I know have several physical issues which I believe are directly related to all the stress/worry.

    Sorry I'm not able to keep up with everyone all of the time and I haven't had the opportunity to read many of your posts lately. This is just my two cents worth... If helpful, great, if not, discard it.

    At any rate, thinking of you, wishing your difficult child a very HAPPY 16th BIRTHDAY filled with special moments... SFR
  9. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Happy birthday, difficult child!

    I hope that school went well and that things remain calm at home.
  10. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    School went well. We made it there 2 days in a row and on time. And, I just reread what I typed in the title. "Toady" Ugh, I need to be more careful.
  11. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Happy Birthday to difficult child and blessings to you for parenting her for sixteen years! Hugs my friend!
  12. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Thanks Buddy!! She and Q are growing up quickly.
  13. Calamity Jane

    Calamity Jane Well-Known Member

    Happy Belated Birthday to difficult child! (Sorry I'm late :congratualtions:)
  14. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Thanks CJ
  15. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Very good. This is progress, small and slow, and calm.