Okay, I know I will sound jaded but here goes... difficult child discussed with her counselor, and then me tonight, that she thinks she has anorexia. She claims that she's lost some weight - 10 lbs - which I have noticed she's thinned out, but I honestly just thought it was the age. I've noticed a lot of girls lose the adolescent pudginess around 17+ so I wasn't really concerned. As far as I know, she's been eating lunch, etc. Now she says she's been lying about eating lunch. I see her gobble up the brocolli cheese soup at Panera bread and I see her eat my dinners. She also snacks on what I have in the house such as fruits, salads, macncheese and makes herself nachos. She said that last night she forced herself to eat the fettucine alfredo that she ordered and then threw it up. Tonight, she claims that she threw up the dinner that I sat next to her and watched her eat (chicken with potatoes - her fave - and gravy and green beans. I do not recall her going to the bathroom after dinner, so really, I do not see how I could have missed her puking. I could wake up a tribe of narcoleptics when I puke, so my feeling is that it'd be hard to hide puking in our tiny house if she did. Yesterday, the counselor was all cryptic when I went in at the end of the session and suggested that difficult child see a nutritionist. I know from my own teen years that seeing a nutritionist, if one is truly anorexic, will not do too much to help. If a person is h.e.l.l bent on skipping meals, she will whether she knows the right foods to eat or not. Okay, so I am having trouble distinguishing this as either an attention grabbing thing (difficult child's M.O.) or a true case of eating disorder...or a very common period in which one loses their appetite. I recall when easy child was 17, she stopped eating for a while - she simply lost her appetite and I had to talk her into eating. After forcing herself for a couple of weeks, she regained her appetite and all was well. This is how I've advised difficult child - create a goal to eat at least half her lunch and work her way up to a whole meal. I have lots of healthy foods in the house, I'm not neurotic about my weight and dieting, etc., and difficult child is neither underweight nor overweight - we just try to eat healthy foods. She's 5'1" and weighs in at approximately 120lbs...she's curvy and buxom. She's got a perfect little figure and I KNOW she's been complimented on it. She takes a multi-vitamin each evening and as far as I can see, when she's home, she's eating okay. I have never suspected her of puking on purpose. She's always been a pretty good eater and usually chooses healthy foods like fruits to snack on, though she's also always been a carb-hound and loves pastas and rice. So, am I underreacting by not rushing her to see a specialist? Should I make an appointment with someone ASAP? Should I wait a bit and see how this plays out? Should I deliberatly NOT make a big deal out it? In the past I've learned that when I jump through hoops, difficult child seems to feed off of that. I've learned NOT to jump through hoops and kind of let her see that she needs to work stuff out on her own. I am kind of annoyed with her counselor for telling difficult child that she agrees she has anorexia based on what?? And also for not telling me but difficult child said the counselor promised not to tell me. Instead, the counselor shoved a card for a nutritionist at me but said it was because difficult child was afraid of gaining wait when she quits smoking. I was confused and wondered why the counselor was going along with that train of thought. I'm thinking it might be a good idea also to find a new counselor. I just thought that was very strange. Thoughts much appreciated!