I need techniques, ideas, whatever to help me deal with difficult child's pity party. It goes like this: difficult child: I'm tired of always being broke. Me: I'm sorry difficult child: I just don't have any money for anything. Me: Haven't you gotten any responses from your job applications? difficult child: No and I applied everywhere. (Omitting long story about walking uphill both ways in the snow to apply at WalMart three times even though he knows I know you apply online.) Me: Again, I'm sorry Then five minutes later... difficult child: I get my license back in 11 days. Me: If you pay $275. difficult child: I just don't see why you can't help me out. I just told you I cannot get a job and I have tried everything. Me: Did you talk to Mr. "Down the Street with a Lawn Business?" difficult child: (More stories about applying over and over.) Me: difficult child, you didn't get these problems overnight and they won't be solved overnight. No one forced you to drink and drive. (This, of course, was followed by nonsense on difficult child's part, including the 'fact' that he will unlikely be able to arise in time for his 11:00 class as I won't give him the "sleep medication" (really bipolar medications but he doesn't know that) that he now wants after throwing a fit and refusing to return to see the psy.} When I dropped him off, he slammed my car door. I returned the favor by lowering my window in the dorm parking lot and yelling, "difficult child, don't slam my door." I know that was wrong as he is now mad at me instead of being mad at himself. I get the drift that the closer difficult child gets to receiving consequences, the uglier he is going to be. I have no intention of allowing him to drive that car, even if they hand his license back to him (which may happen if the DUI arrest is thrown out at trial on Feb 28th.) I don't trust him. Any ideas welcomed. Thanks in advance!