Well, difficult child has been serving detention everyday this week due to tardies. School will not give me the dates or classes he was tardy for. The office says contact the teacher (sp. ed teacher) The teacher says she doesn't know contact the office. difficult child did bring home progress report this week and only has one missing assignment this week vs. 15 previous week. A few weeks ago therapist and psychiatrist (same week appointments) both said that difficult child's outbursts are not in his control. That he has so much anxiety, and other issues that when he has an outburst he cannot control it. VP and teachers have been emailing me and I have gotten so very upset. I understand that difficult child needs to be held responsible for his actions, but in the same he needs to be taught how to recognise the signs of anxiety and the signs of what the triggers are and learn how to control himself. All he gets is kicked out of class and sent to a little room alone. So, where are the spec. ed services? Why won't anyone help him learn these issues. I asked therapist and psychiatrist if they would write a letter stating that this is out of his control. Both called on Friday and said no, they would not feel comfortable doing that. difficult child is suppose to be undergoing FBA testing and beginning this comming week he will be tested by the school psychologist. IEP is set for 5/21. I am so burnt out, I don't have the enery to think about the IEP. I am angry with school for his treatment, seperating him from the rest of the class before class even begins. Punishing him if he talks, when others talk to him and they don't get punished. I saw first hand where his desk is placed. I am also angry with difficult child because he just doesn't get it. I have been losing control so often with difficult child. I was angry with the puppy the other day and difficult child told me I don't have the patience to own a puppy. If he ever had a clue of what HE does to me. Everyday difficult child and I argue, cry, I want to leave. How can I even prepare for an IEP when I just cannot go in there with an open mind. I feel as if they are all against him. They make comments that make it sound as if he is this horrible kid. He is not violent, he is not in trouble with the law. It is just his mouth, his defiance to comply. AND, in addition to my horrible week, three neighbors made comments to me. One, next door has five children under age 7. Homeschools. She told me that difficult child will never be able to be with other children alone if he is diagnosis'd bipolar. Another neighbor told me that someone told her she saw difficult child in the field last week skipping school. (I talk to his teachers atleast 3 times a day via email). Another neighbor told me difficult child is MUCH worse than her son ever was (he is 27 now). And she says and He never even graduated from school. (he has been in and out of jail the last several years). That gives me such a negative outlook for the future. I know he didn't skip school. I am in constant contact because of his tardies..which are not tardies to school, they are tardies to class. difficult child likes to talk rather than get to his next class on time. I just had no response to these people. Makes me want to just hide. difficult child is not a bad kid like everyone is saying. Well, difficult child is sleeping, I have some errands to run, then take a nap and off to work at midnight.