husband's sister was telling their Aunt from their father's side about the problems we were having with our difficult child and getting him in to his own place with a support staff. His sister even told her about the explosive violent tempers he was getting. This is the comment that came out of her mouth "If they would have spent more time with him then he would not have turned out that way. He does not need to be on medications but they just need to spend more time with him." We have done nothing but support my son with whatever he wanted to do and was always there taking him to appointments and fighting the schools when they were not looking after my son's best interest. If I ever see this Aunt again, I will have to fight the urge to b*tch slap her on the spot. husband said "Wait till I talk to her again.....we will not have much of a relationship once I get done with her but then again....who cares!