My mother and I didn't have a good relationship at all. I haven't seen her in 23 years. She lives in the same town and actually lives right down the street from my job. My father has Parkinson's disease and I heard he wasn't doing very well. I have seen him very few times in those years. I thought today I would try to call and see if he was receptive to talking. He wasn't actually this is what he said. I said Hi, how are you? He said Why? I said I thought I would just check in and see how you were. He said you haven't called in years, don't bother now. I said okay, and he began to laugh as though the whole conversation to him was funny. My father had never been a cruel person. In fact he was always very nice and just seemed to be weak as for as standing up to my mother. I am really shocked at his behavior. He didn't seem weak to me, like I was told. He seemed very prepared for my call and very much in control. My father and I had always been very close while I was growing up. I have a daughter that is part African American and they used that as an excuse to disown me. I found out that they had hidden my existence completely with my brother's kids and they never knew about me or their cousins. We now have a relationship with them and my sister in law. They are 17,16 9 and 7. As far as anyone knows they only had 2 children, My brother and my sister. Now that I am writing all of this, I can see things a little different, really how crazy everything has been. I am hurt, but I can put this behind me now. I won't go to his funeral, or hers, I won't try again. I have tried several times. It's over. I am amazed that I came from these people. Utterly amazed. I am not perfect in anyway, but I never deserved to be treated like this. I don't understand their type of cruelty. I had a totally different picture of my father, and he just ruined that today. I can hold him as accountable to all of the craziness as my mother. He allowed her to be abusive and didn't protect me then and now he is acting just as badly as she does. I am done with it.