I know that! I had just gotten to the point that I was able to relax a little and this weekend has been a disaster. To begin with difficult child is very unhappy in program. He is back to his old manipulation and lying. He is under the infulence of an older guy who is feeding him information that he is taking as the gospel. The director is telling us one thing, difficult child is telling us another. We are looking for another program---but I'm not sure that is the answer. PCdaughter and her boyfriend have been at each other for weeks. She broke up with him yesterday when she realized he had relapsed. Last night she was on the phone with me and had pulled up to a gas station to talk about her plans for the night. He pulled up with his exgf. easy child lost it and went into the station and slapped him. He followed her out and words were exchanged. He grabbed her and threw her cell phone. She can be brought up on charges of simple assault. She was wrong! I am not excusing her actions. But...this relationship is toxic. I want her out of it. If I forbid her to see him, I'm afraid of creating a Romeo/Juliet scenerio. On top of all that husband has the flu...and there is nothing in the world as needy as a sick male! Help! I am powerless in all three situations right now. PCdaughter has not acted like this since she was 14. She is usually mature and together. difficult child was doing so much better...he has always chosen the wrong role models. husband did go to the doctor, but he will be home soon hacking and moaning....Calgon, where are you???