Thanks for the input; I did forget to include detail. The school is starting the testing process - but it is another 9 weeks while they try to "intercede" in the classroom and then they start the testing process. This means Jan/Feb for the testing even gets scheduled, and most likely March before interventions get put into place. If we get the testing done ourselves, it forces them to move much faster. Teacher, husband, and I are concerned about letting that much time pass. We did this with difficult child because his SD didn't believe there were issues beyond ADHD; but we had a psychologist that we worked with that could do this through our insurance. We work with a counselor for difficult child out-of-pocket and we're trying to avoid some cash outlay if we can.
easy child's teacher has been actively collecting work samples; but wants to meet with us for each thing she is doing in the classroom - and then moving on from there. She is wonderful, but the time it takes with my travel schedule (she wants me there) and to sign-off for the next step is also playing a factor. husband and I are guessing that she's had lots of parents in the past with the "not my kid" mentality. We've told her about difficult child and we'll just sign what she needs; but she still wants to meet . . .
I tried to force the issue a bit last year, and knew there was a problem; but easy child technically passed the state testing. Between being crushed at work, dealing with difficult child's issues and husband becoming unemployed, I let it slide . . . my fault. Fortunately, difficult child is on a bit of an upswing at the moment, so I can focus on easy child more.
So - to make a long story short - if we formally request the testing, do they have to do prelimary testing "immediately"; or since the problem has already been discussed and plans are in process, do we have to stay as we are (as far as timing)?