cubsgirl
Well-Known Member
(sigh). easy child is the kid I never worried about. She did everything asked, made good grades in school and was very respectful of everyone.
She turned 18 in March and things have drastically changed. She has had a boyfriend for about 10 months - he's totally spacey but husband and I figure - it's her boyfriend- she has to deal with him. However, since her 18th birthday all we hear out of her mouth is "I'm 18 and I can do what I want". I tell her all the time "It's our house - it's our rules - end of discussion".
She is almost never at home, she always goes to boyfriend's house because we are "totally mean" to her. OMG - this kid has been allowed to do just about whatever she wants because she's always been so mature and responsible. She constantly brings up that I'm bipolar and therefore an unfit mother and she had a horrid childhood (her childhood was fine and she said so until she turned 18). My psychiatrist wants her in treatment and thinks its unfair she uses the bipolar against me.
She refuses to see a therapist and I don't think I can make her.
Everyone I talk to that has older kids said that her wanting to be out of the house is normal and she'll be back to human form by age 25. ARGH. That's a long way off. She also is going away (4 hours away) to the same college as boyfriend and they are moving in together this summer. Funny - neither has a job in the new area, they don't have an apartment in the new area, they don't have a car and she doesn't have her driver's license. It will be interesting to see how this "move" pans out.
What do I do with her in the meantime?
She turned 18 in March and things have drastically changed. She has had a boyfriend for about 10 months - he's totally spacey but husband and I figure - it's her boyfriend- she has to deal with him. However, since her 18th birthday all we hear out of her mouth is "I'm 18 and I can do what I want". I tell her all the time "It's our house - it's our rules - end of discussion".
She is almost never at home, she always goes to boyfriend's house because we are "totally mean" to her. OMG - this kid has been allowed to do just about whatever she wants because she's always been so mature and responsible. She constantly brings up that I'm bipolar and therefore an unfit mother and she had a horrid childhood (her childhood was fine and she said so until she turned 18). My psychiatrist wants her in treatment and thinks its unfair she uses the bipolar against me.
She refuses to see a therapist and I don't think I can make her.
Everyone I talk to that has older kids said that her wanting to be out of the house is normal and she'll be back to human form by age 25. ARGH. That's a long way off. She also is going away (4 hours away) to the same college as boyfriend and they are moving in together this summer. Funny - neither has a job in the new area, they don't have an apartment in the new area, they don't have a car and she doesn't have her driver's license. It will be interesting to see how this "move" pans out.
What do I do with her in the meantime?