I'm a mother of a son who has paranoid schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. I've been trying to help my son become self sufficient for the past 4 yrs by helping him utilize community resources. From endless court appearances, doctor's visits, you name it, I've done it. My son cooperates 90% up until it's time to cross the finish line to obtain medical treatment, become approved for a men's shelter or group home, comply with probation ... then he suddenly backs and stops showing up for appointments to sign paperwork or get evaluated. This has been a never ending vicious cycle and it's emotionally exhausting for me. My family and I are at odds and do not have a healthy relationship because they feel like I simply need to sign a lease for him to get him off the streets so that he's no longer homeless. I'm not financially capable of taking such a risk when my son has acted irresponsibly. He can't live with me cuz he's been physically violent towards his siblings. All I do now is continue praying for him, feed him if he comes over and send him on his way. This helps me cope with knowing I'm no longer enabling him. I'd wish my family would stop blaming me for his resistance to accept help and realize that I no longer have parental authority over him cuz he's an adult.