Well apparently I am a repeat enabler powered by guilt and my 22 year old daughter is in the drivers seat. We are a blended family. I lost my husband and my kids father 10 years ago. Since then, no matter what I do its not right, enough, whatever. My daughter has our only 2 gkids (2&3) the loves of our lives and she knows it and not afraid to use them, the death of her father, or whatever else. She's a master manipulator, abuses drugs, no work ethic, says the most horrible things to myself and her stepdad. Her husband is pretty much the same except he doesn't verbally abuse us. They currently live with us. We do everything we can possibly to maintain stability for the gkids. We enrolled and pay for their daycare hoping they will get on their feet and get out. But that scares us too because the places they go and people they put those kids around. We have not been empty nesters long....that didn't last long, they have moved in and our a few times. We both work fulltime and have lost ourselves in their drama. We don't know what to do or not do anymore.