My oldest son (30yrs.) who is verbally abusive and often threateningly abusive via e-mails even up until yesterday sent me another e-mail this morning. I "think" I know the answer to this but want to ask the forum their thoughts. He "says" he has a potential for a 40 hr. week job (which he has NEVER had in his life) but he'd need tolls and gas because it's in the next town. Even with that information he calls me a big fat nosed troglodyte (which I had to look up). Usually he calls me a , whore, shriveled up v*%@*a so he's expanding on his vocabulary. Even with all this I think, is this the time I won't help him that he'd finally get on his feet and be able to get out of the cold and help himself? Am I not being realistic or falling back into the "trap"?