New Leaf
Well-Known Member
"You are just too sensitive". These are words I have heard throughout my life. It was as if there were something broken that needed to be fixed. I bought into this when I was younger and I tried to "toughen" up.
In some ways, my attempts worked, in other ways, not so much.
I always felt different, and saw that I reacted differently to experiences, cried at sad songs, movies, needed more time than most people to process everything, especially emotions, etc.
I am learning to look at my sensitivity now as a blessing, not a curse. It is a trait that drives me to write poetry, sculpt and paint.
There is ongoing research about highly sensitive people and how our minds work differently.
I have the book "The Highly Sensitive Person" and am just starting to delve into it. It is helping me to understand a bit more about myself and how this trait affected my childhood and quite possibly, the way I was perceived by my FOO.
There are articles and websites that are devoted to "HSP's" ( yes we have our own acronym) and it is nice to know there are kindred spirits out there in the big wide world.....
Below is one interesting article I found.
http://www.marcandangel.com/2015/07/22/10-life-changing-tips-for-highly-sensitive-people/
This is from a pretty cool personal development blog with the "goal to give you the tools to identify and transform the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck."
I like that.....I don't want to be stuck, I want to move forward and live well. I think part of being able to do that is to understand my past with my FOO, to learn more about who I am. Part of that is acknowledging the effect family dynamics played in my development. This will help me see myself through a healthier perspective, I hope......
I am understanding more and more that I am a highly sensitive person, the need to nourish and build on the good attributes of that trait, and to work on recognizing the extremes I can go to and find balance.
We write in posts to one another,
"You have value, you matter."
When raising and caring for children, especially d cs, we can get lost in the responsibility of it all. When our children leave the nest the question can become
" Well who am I anyway?"
Defining ourselves as individuals again, that is an exciting prospect. To have the time and presence of mind to be able to work on ourselves. Personal development after parenting........
To me the foundation of personal development begins with understanding who we are, and going from there.... I think it is a huge piece of the puzzle in facing the hard realities that brought us to CD in the first place. Surviving the battle we wage as parents of d cs. That battle is oftentimes internalized and we suffer greatly. It is a matter of not just coping, but learning to thrive, switching from intense focus on our d cs lives, to focusing on what we can control, ourselves.
Knowing who we are and striving to build on that........we can make decisions from solid ground and provide an example through living well......for all of our children.
Highly sensitive people.....
Is there anyone else in our CD family that have felt similarly and explored their sensitivity?
(((Hugs)))
leafy
In some ways, my attempts worked, in other ways, not so much.
I always felt different, and saw that I reacted differently to experiences, cried at sad songs, movies, needed more time than most people to process everything, especially emotions, etc.
I am learning to look at my sensitivity now as a blessing, not a curse. It is a trait that drives me to write poetry, sculpt and paint.
There is ongoing research about highly sensitive people and how our minds work differently.
I have the book "The Highly Sensitive Person" and am just starting to delve into it. It is helping me to understand a bit more about myself and how this trait affected my childhood and quite possibly, the way I was perceived by my FOO.
There are articles and websites that are devoted to "HSP's" ( yes we have our own acronym) and it is nice to know there are kindred spirits out there in the big wide world.....
Below is one interesting article I found.
http://www.marcandangel.com/2015/07/22/10-life-changing-tips-for-highly-sensitive-people/
This is from a pretty cool personal development blog with the "goal to give you the tools to identify and transform the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck."
I like that.....I don't want to be stuck, I want to move forward and live well. I think part of being able to do that is to understand my past with my FOO, to learn more about who I am. Part of that is acknowledging the effect family dynamics played in my development. This will help me see myself through a healthier perspective, I hope......
I am understanding more and more that I am a highly sensitive person, the need to nourish and build on the good attributes of that trait, and to work on recognizing the extremes I can go to and find balance.
We write in posts to one another,
"You have value, you matter."
When raising and caring for children, especially d cs, we can get lost in the responsibility of it all. When our children leave the nest the question can become
" Well who am I anyway?"
Defining ourselves as individuals again, that is an exciting prospect. To have the time and presence of mind to be able to work on ourselves. Personal development after parenting........
To me the foundation of personal development begins with understanding who we are, and going from there.... I think it is a huge piece of the puzzle in facing the hard realities that brought us to CD in the first place. Surviving the battle we wage as parents of d cs. That battle is oftentimes internalized and we suffer greatly. It is a matter of not just coping, but learning to thrive, switching from intense focus on our d cs lives, to focusing on what we can control, ourselves.
Knowing who we are and striving to build on that........we can make decisions from solid ground and provide an example through living well......for all of our children.
Highly sensitive people.....
Is there anyone else in our CD family that have felt similarly and explored their sensitivity?
(((Hugs)))
leafy
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