newstart
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Even though I don't post that often I still think and worry about the rest of you, I know your stories and I have felt them. I would love to hear a short update on your life. When I mention anything good my daughter does, just know that the other shoe drops and we are back to square one, there is always another side to her when she is doing ok, a secret side that I know nothing of. I have to become a detective to figure out her life, I listen to tone and look at body language because the bit's and piece's that come out of her mouth are lies. I feel satisfaction when I read about a parent taking back their life and making their adult child's nonsense stop. I feel so proud for you that you have the strength and courage to make the madness end and regain your peace. I have done it too and it takes much strength, my daughter knows I have it inside of me to not tolerate her abuse but it has taken me many years to get to that stage. There are times I still feel defeated and I gain my self respect and strength and have to hammer down on her even at my age of almost 66.
I went on vacation and met a lot of parents who have wayward adult children. It breaks my heart to hear their stories because I have walked that walk and I feel their pain intensely.
So for now my daughters boyfriend is backing away. My daughter has lost 30lbs and doing ok in her job. I know as soon as he is in the picture the weight gain happens and she feels ill all the time and does not go into work. He has tried to wiggle back into her life and I know when that happens because of her terrible attitude and weight gain.
The creepy boyfriend does not live in my rent home with her anymore so the place actually looks decent. I stop over unexpected and I have not seen him there or any of his things...But that does not mean he is gone all the way either.
When I say her home looks decent, I mean decent for her, far cry from what I could live in. Also, I have to find and schedule lawn service but I make her pay me back. I deeply enjoy buying her things that she likes and needs. I get deep satisfaction out of doing this. As long as she is respectful to me and gives back then I will continue to help her out like this. She does thank me. I am working on cutting back on this, I am going to therapy the end of this month to find out why this gives me such deep satisfaction. I contribute to other causes and people too and feel good about it but not on the deep level as when I give and help her with things.
Things are a bit balanced for the time being, I know anytime it can fall off quickly and I never know what hit me or how it got so bad so quickly.
I want to tell the new people on here what has helped me the most in the past with my daughter.
I told my daughter that her evil behavior is demonic and she is pleasing to the dark side. Each time she did something bad I would tell her that the dark side is taking her.
I quit talking to her, completely, for 3 months meaning no phone calls or nothing. It helped me the most. I just could not take her B.S. any longer and knew if I continued it would ruin my health. It was the best thing I could do for both of us and the ONLY thing that forced her to change.
Wishing all of you peace, the deep peace your feel deep in your soul.
I went on vacation and met a lot of parents who have wayward adult children. It breaks my heart to hear their stories because I have walked that walk and I feel their pain intensely.
So for now my daughters boyfriend is backing away. My daughter has lost 30lbs and doing ok in her job. I know as soon as he is in the picture the weight gain happens and she feels ill all the time and does not go into work. He has tried to wiggle back into her life and I know when that happens because of her terrible attitude and weight gain.
The creepy boyfriend does not live in my rent home with her anymore so the place actually looks decent. I stop over unexpected and I have not seen him there or any of his things...But that does not mean he is gone all the way either.
When I say her home looks decent, I mean decent for her, far cry from what I could live in. Also, I have to find and schedule lawn service but I make her pay me back. I deeply enjoy buying her things that she likes and needs. I get deep satisfaction out of doing this. As long as she is respectful to me and gives back then I will continue to help her out like this. She does thank me. I am working on cutting back on this, I am going to therapy the end of this month to find out why this gives me such deep satisfaction. I contribute to other causes and people too and feel good about it but not on the deep level as when I give and help her with things.
Things are a bit balanced for the time being, I know anytime it can fall off quickly and I never know what hit me or how it got so bad so quickly.
I want to tell the new people on here what has helped me the most in the past with my daughter.
I told my daughter that her evil behavior is demonic and she is pleasing to the dark side. Each time she did something bad I would tell her that the dark side is taking her.
I quit talking to her, completely, for 3 months meaning no phone calls or nothing. It helped me the most. I just could not take her B.S. any longer and knew if I continued it would ruin my health. It was the best thing I could do for both of us and the ONLY thing that forced her to change.
Wishing all of you peace, the deep peace your feel deep in your soul.