tirednburnedout
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We have been going through a lot with our kiddos but I must say that I am a very fusterated mom and feel like I am always having to walk on eggshells around my two oldest children, our oldest has become extremely aggressive in the last year. I know that a blended family can be more difficult than the modern family but the therapist don't seem to understand that I have been the kids mom for the past four years dealing with behaviors and all the fun stuff that comes with behavioral children. I kind of feel like all the hard work we have put in to teaching them to act with respect has went out the window. Back to our son he is currently been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, and Emotional Disorder he is taking Concerta and Depakote which I know are some very harsh drugs to be on, it seems that behaviors became worse when we had some life changes i.e. dad lost his job, mom got pregnant with a boy (Mike has been the only boy in our family until now), and we had to move from a bad neighborhood. Now I do understand that all these things can cause anxiety and fear but to all of the sudden threaten to kill others and yourself its beyond me...Grandparents spoil our son and ignore our two other children. Mike (our oldest) has this entitlement attitude, (you have to do these things for me but I wont do anything for you) especially when it comes to respect. Both our children seem to think that they don't have to respect anyone and will yell profanities, hit, break things until they get what they want and most behaviors start when we ask them to participate with family activities, or chores.
Mikes new counselor thinks that killing them with kindness will help, when I explained that we tried that for over a year and they just got worse she says well keep doing it. I just have a hard time giving respect when its not given in return. I was raised to get respect you must give it. I don't know how to feel or what to do now, any advice would be helpful.
tirednburnedout
Mikes new counselor thinks that killing them with kindness will help, when I explained that we tried that for over a year and they just got worse she says well keep doing it. I just have a hard time giving respect when its not given in return. I was raised to get respect you must give it. I don't know how to feel or what to do now, any advice would be helpful.
tirednburnedout