I had some one in the family tell me that I am hard on my difficult child. That I expect too much from him and he just reacts to how I treat him, and that is what his problem is - ME. OMG! Can it be true? I have all along tried to take care of his problems alone - keeping away from situations that I know can cause problems (as best I can - but not always possible unless I move to a remote island!). I am just sitting and still reeling from this. I mean, I don't feel I cause his reactions. I don't feel as if it is me - and honestly, I've only been short with him since he hit the big 13! I think it is teenage stuff along with everything else now. I am wondering - has anyone ELSE ever felt that they may be the culprit behind their precious difficult child's behavior? I don't think I am, but gosh, could I be? But, then again, it is easy to sit on the outside and see only a miniscule bit of a behvior and make an entire judgement on the whole situation. I feel so overwhelmed!!!!