Alisonlg
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Do the rest of you have to restrain your g'sfg every single night too?
Gosh...I'm just so physically exhausted...and here I was wondering earlier why my neck and shoulders are so tight and sore. Every single night is a battle going to bed for difficult child 1. We keep it routine, we keep it calm, and we do our best to make it an easy, smooth transition, but it seems no matter what we try as soon as the clock strikes 9 pm (bedtime) the switch goes off and difficult child gets a big smirk on his face and goes into meltdown mode.
He runs around the house, he bangs on the floor/doors, he screams, he does whatever he needs to do to refuse to stay in his room and be quiet for bedtime...which results in us physically having to bring him back to his room and physically hold him in his room. Tonight, I ended up getting punched in the eye, but luckily it wasn't hard enough to leave a mark.
I kept thinking over and over in my head...what could we do differently? Well, what would the school Social Worker do...she would ask him what he needed to do to wind down to go to bed I bet....well, we already tried that...husband offered him the opportunity to stay in his bed and play quietly for 1/2 hr before having to lay down...he didn't even take advantage of the full 1/2 hr before he started running around the house. Then I thought, what would the psychiatric hospital do? Well, they would demand he stay in his room...which is what we do...and when he starts his rage of either destroying his things or leaving the room, they'd remove him to the "quiet room"....well darn, we don't have one of those....so we can only remove him back to his room. Then, if he wouldn't stay in the quiet room or he posed a danger to himself or staff, they'd restrain him...which is what we do (only funny thing...they train STAFF on how to safely and EFFECTIVELY restrain a difficult child, but NOT parents...?!?!?)...and if/when he doesn't calm down, they'd give him a PRN....we don't have a PRN. Lovely. SO WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?
ARG! I'm so sick and tired of doing this every single night and having all of these "professionals" invovled in our lives and not ONE of them giving us any actual HELP.
Ok...I'm tired and I'm tense and I just had to get that off my chest and see if we were the only ones going through this. If any of you have any suggestions on what we could be doing differently, I'd greatly appreciate it.
Gosh...I'm just so physically exhausted...and here I was wondering earlier why my neck and shoulders are so tight and sore. Every single night is a battle going to bed for difficult child 1. We keep it routine, we keep it calm, and we do our best to make it an easy, smooth transition, but it seems no matter what we try as soon as the clock strikes 9 pm (bedtime) the switch goes off and difficult child gets a big smirk on his face and goes into meltdown mode.
He runs around the house, he bangs on the floor/doors, he screams, he does whatever he needs to do to refuse to stay in his room and be quiet for bedtime...which results in us physically having to bring him back to his room and physically hold him in his room. Tonight, I ended up getting punched in the eye, but luckily it wasn't hard enough to leave a mark.
I kept thinking over and over in my head...what could we do differently? Well, what would the school Social Worker do...she would ask him what he needed to do to wind down to go to bed I bet....well, we already tried that...husband offered him the opportunity to stay in his bed and play quietly for 1/2 hr before having to lay down...he didn't even take advantage of the full 1/2 hr before he started running around the house. Then I thought, what would the psychiatric hospital do? Well, they would demand he stay in his room...which is what we do...and when he starts his rage of either destroying his things or leaving the room, they'd remove him to the "quiet room"....well darn, we don't have one of those....so we can only remove him back to his room. Then, if he wouldn't stay in the quiet room or he posed a danger to himself or staff, they'd restrain him...which is what we do (only funny thing...they train STAFF on how to safely and EFFECTIVELY restrain a difficult child, but NOT parents...?!?!?)...and if/when he doesn't calm down, they'd give him a PRN....we don't have a PRN. Lovely. SO WHAT THE HECK AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?
ARG! I'm so sick and tired of doing this every single night and having all of these "professionals" invovled in our lives and not ONE of them giving us any actual HELP.
Ok...I'm tired and I'm tense and I just had to get that off my chest and see if we were the only ones going through this. If any of you have any suggestions on what we could be doing differently, I'd greatly appreciate it.