Hello... My husband and I don't know what else to do. Our daughter is out of control. Yesterday she called her science teacher a cuss word (you know the one) after doing something very inappropriate with some science materials just to get negative attention. She has already pretty much outcasted herself from everyone and this only adds to her bad reputation. We just got her norm-referenced test results in the mail as well and she scored below grade level in most everything. Last year she was pretty much on grade level and above on some. Two years ago she was in the gifted range in most things and all the years before that the same thing. We don't know why she's just been on such a downhill slide. The things that have happened to her have happened to other kids as well and they ahve not just sat and sabotaged themselves like she has. It's wierd too because we have a son that's not in our home anymore and he did the same thing at the same age but under much worse cisrcumstances. They are adopted so it almost makes us wonder if it's purely genetics. It's the age-old question of nature vs. nurture which also makes us feel like it's something we did depite what our professional counselors, and doctors tell us. We have given them every opportunity and we brought them out of poverty into an upper-middle class neighborhood. We are both educated with advanced degrees and both work. We come from educated families and they have grandparents on each side that are educated and not divorced. It doesn't make sense. At this point, she is just spinning out of control no matter what we say or do. You should see her. She flat out doesn't care. She has an excuse for everything or her answer is just "I don't know" when asked why she's behaving a certain way. She also lies constantly and has a blank look all of the time. She does not care at all what people think about her. I know some of you will say she needs to be admitted to a hospital but we tried that with the child that is no longer with us and no one would help us until he broke the law and was removed from our home because it was against his own sister. So we know what it takes in our city and with her insurance to even get a hospital admittance. She would have to try to commit a crime or physically hurt herself before they would admit her. It's pathetic. Thanks for listening.