Hi, new here too. My difficult child, is an 11 year old boy, that is ADHD/ODD. his adhd is under control thru medications, a very supportive school with an IPP for behaviour. So what's going on that prompted me here? since school let out, he is very oppositional. He sees a psychiatrist, and am currently waiting for *yet another* parenting course. which i have to take to see if it works before he'll see if there's anything else available. ok, so far tons of good things happened before school let out. he came home, graded with an A in health (A's in our house are worth $20..so rare). the week before he finished his reading tutoring program, was showered with presents from favorite tutor.. was awarded most improved cadet at navy leagues, and rec'd trophy. had party @ school and more presents from his EPAS. he came home, i told him i had to have a nap, was feeling sick. when i woke up maybe 30 mins later. he had completely destroyed his room by throwing paint EVERYWHERE. the wallpaper, floors and ceiling are ruined. it was all over toys, clothes, bed, furniture, computer..you name it. we stripped the room of everything but a mattress. and made him earn the stuff back. but as you guys arleady know, it's an on going battle. so last night (and this has happened half a dozen times), we went all the way to his taekwondo class. he's testing for blue belt on thurs..and he refused to go! so we sat class out in the car. and told him because he keeps refusing to go, he's not testing thrus. didn't phase him. don't know how to handle it, and expecting same thing with cadets in the fall. he really enjoys both of these activities, and he's going on his 3rd year in both. anyone have suggestions? good reads? something? pulling my hair out here. i am so hurt and frustrated. i feel like he's sucking the life out of me. his psychiatric wants him in these activites. and i find overall they help.